If you know
that your father is definitely against circumcision, then it should
- if it were necessary - be quite possible to talk to him about it, because he is exhibiting a perhaps unusually (in American terms) intelligent and "enlightened" attitude. The awful practice of circumcision can only thrive where ignorance and prudery - being unwilling to discuss things of such vitally obvious importance - are the rule.
I think we can say you are "normal enough"; given that you normally should
be able to retract your foreskin with comfort, there are a modest
proportion of fellows who share your problem; perhaps a few percent overall.
It is normal
to have a sensitive glans. The only reason it is "normal" to have a glans which is not
sensitive, is where circumcision is practiced, actually a quite bizarre version of "normalcy". But this illustrates a principle - the glans - as with virtually any other part of the body - "adjusts" its sensitivity both in terms of its structure; the thickness and durability of the skin; and the behaviour of the nerve supply, according to its degree of exposure. So being always
exposed by circumcision (or some fellows with a naturally deficient foreskin , or some who deliberately
keep the foreskin back) leads to considerable
loss of sensitivity. A foreskin retracted only for "business", and that primarily inserted into a well-lubricated vagina, will be quite
sensitive, and one never
exposed due to a tight foreskin will be just a little too
sensitive, though with plenty
of lubrication, it should still be comfortable to stroke in a nice soft place.
The best time of day to stretch is very much up to you. While there is some suggestion that being nice and uniformly warm
in the bath or shower helps in stretching, it is not essential and I don't think people should waste water on this account.
The best way to avoid odours is not
to get soap on or inside the foreskin. This is easier to avoid in the shower as you are not soaking in soapy water. Soap irritates
the skin, and the production of more "smegma" is part of the skin's response to such irritation. In the shower, you can "funnel" the foreskin (as described in our exercise instructions) and let the water run in.
You do not need
to touch the glans, other
that with something that is well lubricated. With lubrication you can
stroke the glans directly for masturbation; some people like that and others find the foreskin more useful (and less messy) and certainly more convenient.
The more sensitive is your glans, the more uncomfortable will a condom be if your glans is directly exposed to it; again, lubrication is the key (adding a little inside the tip of the condom).
I can see no reason why "phimosis" was historically common, and certainly not normal. Beware of people who claim some "hygienic" basis for the practice of circumcision - this has never
been the case, not in wars, not in desert environments (the foreskin would keep sand out
and peeing would remove any that got in; if it were otherwise, women
would never have survived), not in the tropics. The only
reason circumcision has been practiced, is that it is a mutilation that can be performed without rendering the victim entirely
sexually inept and thus, infertile. It has always
been performed in order to restrict sexual enjoyment and emphasise the social control of the group performing it.