Thanks for putting so succinctly what is so f%@$#% exasperating about this whole nonsensical process. And, I might add, while telling you that you have almost no chance to conceive, they let you waste six months and thousands of $$$$ doing IUI's before even giving you a stupid HSG! (And just like you, Sas, I found out, lo and behold, my tubes ARE blocked! grrr) Please, don't apologize for being feminist! You are absolutely on-the-money. Years ago I read a hilarious article by Gloria Steinem called "If Men Could Menstruate." Instead of it being a source of secrecy and shame, it would be a status symbol they bragged about (Hey, I'm a two-pad man myself, heh heh).