and my DH and I are going to be in the tell camp for our child. There are many good books out there...on how to approach that subject when the time comes. I went the anonymous route...as I am 44 years old...and most of my friends are around that age...too old to donate for me. The clinic gave a toddler picture of the donor....and a 6 page profile on the donor...her likes and dislikes...medical information from her and her family and briefly what she looks like. She sounds really sweet. I don't want to meet the donor...as she does not want to be known....she is supplying me with an egg to get pg...and I will be the mommy (god willing). I am, however, going to do the umbilical cord freezing ...just in case there is some health issue somewhere down the road. DE was not a hard decision for us..we want to be parents so badly. I feel, when you get ready to tell the child, we can always tell them that we needed help from some very special people. Good luck to you!