That, among other reasons, is why I tread very gently on that issue. It's a lot to jump into, and the financial stakes are high. It's just that I'm so amazed each day that this crazy endeavor is what it took for me to have my dd, that when I hear something like this, I have to reach out to say that people really do this!
I so wish her a solution. She is lucky to have you by her side.