But, whether they're clueless or not, some people just really want to tell people. I did... I told all my friends; family; everybody I was close to the minute I had my positive pregnancy test. If I miscarried, well, I figured they could share in my grief and give me support. After so many years of trying, I was thrilled to finally be able to say, "Yes!!! It's a positive this time!!!" Of course I held off telling my congregation until I got through the first trimester; no use stirring that pot until I was sure it was a keeper. But, in all honesty, I've never really "gotten" the whole idea of waiting to tell your family and friends. There's great joy in sharing the news!