Rattled.June 5 2012 at 8:20 PM
|Maggie in VA (Login maggie1961)|
Hi, as I was picking up the kids from day care this afternoon, a woman stopped me as I was trying to get the kids into the car. As usual, Bob was ignoring my order to hold my hand and ran over to the car. The woman looked Ethiopian or Somali -- the day care my kids attend is at a church where I used to be a member, and it's very low cost for this area, and the kids are very diverse. She pointed to Bob and said (and her English was somewhat halting), "I think he has something. I have a 3yo son who is autistic, and with diet changes, he is much better. I would be open to talking to you on the phone, if you would like."
WTF? OK, Bob is being seen by an educator with the county Infant and Toddler Connection, in fact, he had an appointment today, but is it so totally obvious he has a problem? Yes, he immediately starts to take off for the far reaches of the church once I arrive -- thank heaven I know it pretty well! Yes, I look pretty harried trying to get them into the car. But does he look -- developmentally disabled? She went on to explain how she had put her son on a gluten-free diet, etc.
I must have looked stunned, but said that I was open to talking to her. I'm actually (no offense to anyone who has had a positive experience with a dietary approach) a pretty big agnostic on dietary changes for behavior issues. And the autistic son must not be at the day care, b/c their lunch menu is certainly not gluten-free. Anyway, I was so upset I was out of sorts all through trying to get dinner ready. My husband is dismissive -- he thinks Bob is just fine. I think Bob is going to have issues with delayed gratification and emotional intelligence, but we'll have to deal with that as it comes.
I can't see us managing much in the way of a special diet for Bob. The educator asked me to read *The Out of Sync Child,* but has never said point-blank that she thinks he has SPD. SPD sure sounds like the diagnosis du jour from what I've read. I'm glad I have him in the system, but I'm freaked out that it's so palpable that he he has some kind of behavioral issue. Thoughts?
Maggie (in VA)
- yeah, I'd be upset... - Andrea on Jun 5, 10:00 PM
- jeepers what the heck? - THK on Jun 5, 10:03 PM
- THK, I wish you lived near me! ;-) - Jen in TN on Jun 6, 10:37 AM
- I bet! - Pandora on Jun 6, 4:56 AM
- On this note, a woman I know has a son with autism - BlessedThistle on Jun 6, 5:21 AM
- Hugs! - PAH on Jun 6, 6:59 AM
- Thanks, guys; now that I've calmed down . . . - Maggie in VA on Jun 6, 7:52 AM
- I'll bet that could be it - thesameboat on Jun 6, 10:02 AM
- sounds logical.... - sas on Jun 6, 1:18 PM
- Hi, Maggie - Ariadne on Jun 6, 7:20 PM
- no doubt! - Golda on Jun 6, 8:08 AM
- Hi, Golda, thanks, and how old was your son . . . - Maggie in VA on Jun 6, 9:24 AM
- Maybe she was just trying to sell... - Cathy on Jun 6, 9:19 AM
- Ooohhh, good point, I am so naive. nt - Maggie in VA on Jun 6, 9:54 AM
- popped into my mind too - Golda on Jun 6, 12:02 PM
- I am rattled as well.....bit of a rant... - sas on Jun 6, 9:39 AM
- Sorry to hear you're feeling this; the irony is . . . - Maggie in VA on Jun 6, 11:50 AM
- I don't blame you, Maggie - Jen in TN on Jun 6, 10:43 AM
- I didn't read all the responses - E&H on Jun 6, 4:52 PM
- don't worry - gr8tful1 on Jun 6, 8:01 PM
- Mmm, give her the mental finger, or write her off as as slightly whacky - Kenny on Jun 7, 10:01 AM
- Oh Maggie.....m - Hope2009 on Jun 7, 11:56 AM