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Is this ever a tad bit hard for you?

November 12 2014 at 10:18 AM
Renata  (Login reyndog)

 

When you meet women, esp older ones, who have been suffering with IF for many years but completely unable to truly consider DE and would rather remain childless or consider adoption, does this ever hurt your heart a little? It took me a few years to wrap my head around it, so I do understand. Originally the whole, "My DH would be making a child with another woman" things weighed heavily on me, until I really that I was actually the biggest contributor to the whole journey and also the one who sacrificed the most. I also understand the reasons why DE isn't for everyone. Then again, there's this sensitive little part of me that feels like my boys, and all DE kids, are being rejected. People see how sweet they are and how much I love them, and yet they won't consider it for themselves. I absolutely know I should not take this personally, but my heart still hurts a little every time. Thanks for listening. It has been getting to me recently.

 
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  1. I feel you - AC in Boston on Nov 12, 2014, 11:38 AM
    1. adoption - De2 on Nov 12, 2014, 12:29 PM
    2. I have to confess.. - BlessedThistle on Nov 12, 2014, 12:43 PM
      1. Re: I have to confess.. - AC in Boston on Nov 12, 2014, 1:09 PM
     
  2. I know what you mean - Margolis on Nov 12, 2014, 1:04 PM
    1. Well, you know that pushes my buttons . . . - Maggie in VA on Nov 13, 2014, 11:10 AM
     
  3. Yes - Mrs.McIrish on Nov 12, 2014, 1:51 PM
    1. Re: Yes - De2 on Nov 12, 2014, 2:52 PM
      1. I admit, sometimes I wonder . . . - Maggie in VA on Nov 13, 2014, 7:19 AM
        1. it depends - De2 on Nov 13, 2014, 8:21 AM
     
  4. Interesting you raise this . . . (sorry, long) - Maggie in VA on Nov 13, 2014, 7:13 AM
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  6. false hope - De2 on Nov 13, 2014, 8:26 AM
    1. Hear that . . . - Maggie in VA on Nov 13, 2014, 11:03 AM
      1. Julia Indichova - De2 on Nov 13, 2014, 11:46 AM
     
  7. I think alternative medicine folks add to the problem sometimes - Renata on Nov 13, 2014, 12:50 PM
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  9. Don't let anyone invalidate you or your children - Thk on Nov 14, 2014, 9:39 PM
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  11. Yes - Ariadne on Nov 15, 2014, 8:28 PM
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  13. Great thread. - diaphanta on Nov 19, 2014, 1:34 AM
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