I will keep you posted, my dad ate his full dinner and was more alert today. Not sure if I will go see him or just wait til he passes. I am having difficulty seeing him for the "last time" to say goodbye. Its too heart wrenching. My brother will be there on Saturday and I will have a better idea how he is doing vs getting updates from my brainless clueless step monster. I hate to be so mean but you guys have no idea how she neglected him in his older age he is 85 and she is 69.
I don't know how far away you are but I doubt if you would regret going if it's possible.
Also, you never really know, Dee. A very close friend of ours has pancreatic cancer. She was disgnosed a year ago and told it was stage 4 and she had weeks (maybe months). DD and I rushed off to see her ( they live abroad). She has done so unbelievably well since then. We've been back twice.
I do know how hard it is. I've lost both of my parents, one young and one 7 years ago. It's awful.
for you and your dad. Before my mom passed I was fortunate to read an amazing book called, 'Final Gift's by Maggie Callanan and Patricia Kelley. If you can get your hands on it, I would highly recommend it. It made a huge difference in how I processed my mom's last days and her passing.
You will find what is best for you and your dad...hugs from Hope
Its something we all have to face and the death of a parent and prior illness is just awful. I hated not being around when my parents passed, although both of them went very quickly without any illness.
I hope you are able to go and see you dad and say goodbye, I know its hard but something you may regret later when its too late if you don't.
I know how hard this is for you - I have been there recently with my mother's hospice stay and passing last month. I do think that you will never regret seeing you father one last time to say goodbye, if it comes to that. I was with my mom holding her hand when she passed and it will remain one of the most profound experiences of my life.
I know it is painful to think of seeing him for the last time and it's human nature to want to avoid pain, but this is something I think you will truly regret.
My DH went to see his father a couple of weeks before he died and it was very hard for that reason, knowing it was the "last time." But he told him he loved him and thanked him for being a good father and he felt very glad later that he was able to tell him those important things while he was still conscious and could understand.
What you are fearing right now may end up being the most meaningful and precious memory you have of him.
