Hi,
I organised a romantic dinner for us at a friend's restaurant last night. We finally got a babysitter. She is lovely. All is well. We walk to the restaurant which is owned by a good friend and had a normal adult conversation on the way. The night looked very promising.
Then the owner of the restaurant informs us that we and one other person whom we know slightly are the only ones for dinner.
That other person arrives and we are put into the position of letting him eat alone or having him eat with us. I said he could eat with us.
I really regret this very much. He is an ok person but this was meant to be a romantic dinner and ...
We get home. The babysitter sits and talks to me. She is so lovely. I think to myself we could go out to dinner next week by ourselves.
In front of the sitter my DH says he has a meeting next Tues so we can't go. When the sitter leaves he says we have to tighten our belt financially so such nights out will be very minimal if at all.
Even with the other person at dinner I did enjoy us getting out. Now... may have to wait another 18 plus months for another dinner. Dissapointed on both fronts.
So I suggested we go to the movies instead where we have cheap passes etc. Thats great but its not the same as sitting opposite someone having a one on one conversation - a supreme rariety for us these days.
Sorry for boring you stupid. I had to tell someone. I can't put this on my FB page as owner of restaurant is on it, best, THK
you sound so kind to offer the other person to sit with you but I may have not done that. I know my DH would have been disappointed not to have alone time with me.
You can also make romantic dinners at home...and enjoy each other and pvt time without spending too much. DH and I like to start planning our Saturday nights at home (since DD was born) on Wednesdays..Gives us alone time to look forward to.
You don't have to wait 18 mths!!!!! I have 4 kids and get out for dinner once a month. We go somewhere inexpensive and pay no babysitting costs! I have a neighbor with kids - we take turns babysitting for each other for free. Find a friend or neighbor and set up an arrangement that suits you both. In fact, when I babysit her kids it is almost like a night out for me anyway as she has only 3 kids (10 and 15) and they don't require any work! I am sure there are other Moms that would be great with Roberto and DH can get some one on one time when you watch the other Mom's kid(s). don't give up so easily!
8 Years Ago it was just DH and me.
DD(7),DD(4),DS(4) & DS(2)
(now thinking about a dog)
I am sorry; I can imagine the disappointment. When DH and I manage to have a quiet dinner out by ourselves, most of the "romantic" conversation is along the lines of, "This is so nice." "This is so great." We're just sort of dazed. And then we tend to talk about stuff like refinancing the house or how much airline tickets will cost, etc. Actually, it's so rare to have the opportunity to talk to other adults, we probably would have been glad to have another person or couple. {{Hugs}} Maggie (in VA)
Hi Maggie,
You are right I did think about having a normal conversation with my DH and other adults was a real treat. We also were a bit stunned and talked about 'how lovely/nice it was to have some time together'. Its funny isn't it. So many things you take for granted before now you long for as a parent.
best, THK
That must have been so disappointing...and then to think you can't go out together for such a long time! But here's another thought: it doesn't have to be dinner. DH and I have had to tighten our belts too lately, and sometimes we just go to a coffee shop where we had our first date, which makes it kind of special for us . We can still sit across from each other and sip our cappuccino or whatever. Yes, we could have coffee at home, but part of the point is to take a break from the baby, darling as he is. I hope you can have your own romantic evening very soon!
It is sooooo much easier to get someone to come by during the day and watch children. I know I did it a lot for other friends, yes I helped at night too.
It seems decadent to have a glass of wine over dinner and everyone always seems more relaxed- and to boot it is cheaper.
Maybe take someone up on an offer to come by during the day and you don't have to do errands...go to a nice restaurant for lunch and live it up!
Oh thats a good one Karma thanks. I will look into lunch out. It is good we now have a reliable babysitter. I asked someone from R's childcare place, she seemed ok, than cancelled at the last minute. I've never asked her again. I couldn't be bothered. We now have a sitter who also looks after my BFF's children. Relief. best, THK
I know its not the same as a romantic restaurant but maybe have a hamburger before the movie and talk there, or have desert and coffee at the restaurant before the movie. We have done both. The other option is I am sure you have access to money, pinch $10 a week and put it in a jar and surprise him when you have enough to go back out. I would not go to that restaurant again, that does not sound fun an empty restaurant and sharing your table.
. We can still sit across from each other and sip our cappuccino or whatever. Yes, we could have coffee at home, but part of the point is to take a break from the baby, darling as he is. I hope you can have your own romantic evening very soon!
