I just want my kid to have a sibling, and not sure if I should really go down this road of chasing my one last egg. I have seen Dr. Zhang in New York for an intro appointment (after seeing Spandorfer at Cornell who told me I needed an egg donor while I was still up in the stirrups- just lovely).

Dr. Zhang says its too early for me to be going for an egg donor, that I should give it six months to a year of his low stim IVF. Truth is, if I wait that long, my three year old BB turns 4, 5, 6.... Also, I am a bit afraid that he is selling me a bit too much. This is his cash cow, women like me. He says with six months effort, I have a 20% chance.

I feel so selfish for waiting so long in life to have my children- it was one excuse in my head after another. I need one more promotion first, I need to own a home first, I need to have some more time with my husband first. Well, there are consequences to this kind of thinking and here it is.

Me:38 1/2
TTC: 5 months (got a weird period, and landed at the RE)
1 Failed IUI
FSH: 18 (kiss of death), 11 next month
DH: very good, but tired of me going on and on about this!

Any thoughts out there on just cutting and running to the DE??

(This is my first post to any chat room ever!)

you have your youth on your side, but I guess you have to figure what type of age gap you can handle with your current child.

age 45.9 FSH 16.3

I think it is great that your RE is encouraging, as that is a hurdle for lots of women on these boards. Below is a link to my story, which is similar to yours. I agonized over the fact that if I ever had another child, my kids would be too far apart, but it hasn't mattered at all in the end, and they are almost 5 years apart.

Best wishes to you, and I hope you find some hope here. Let me know if you have questions.

Ann

http://www.network54.com/Forum/249538/message/1215728306/An+old-timer+posting+a+message+of+hope....


(This board is very slow, by the way, so you may want to visit the "new high FSH" board, just be sure to be sensitive in your messages of the fact that you have a child already and many there don't.)

I've been ttc for 6 years and have a 7 year old son.

I posted about r+ Lipoic acid taken with Co-Q10 on the other board and didn't get much response. I'm hearing good things about these supplements actually fixing our older eggs and women are getting pregnant and carrying to term!

Yes, this board is slow...but let's try and get it going again!

I've also introduced pre-seed into my life with the hopes that it'll carry the sperm right up to that follicle.

You might also want to check out fertilityfriend.com and start charting your temps.

I too have had the less than 1% chance speech which went right into donor eggs suggestion.

I haven't given up yet. There's some teary days and there's some majorly positive days.

Hang in there.

JeanTOR