Hello,
I have an interesting problem. My gf loves g-spot stimulation but also needs clitoral stimulation to reach her high point of pleasure. So usually I go down on her, doing the g-spot with my fingers and the clit with my tounge(sorry if thats too much details). Anyhow, she gets more and more into it, moaning more and thrusting harder back into me and it seems that she is going to orgasm, but then she says it starts hurting and can't continue and makes me pull my fingers out. She says my hand starts to hurt her and her clit becomes to sensitive but I am not doing anything different. This is a problem for both of us because I feel incompetent not being able to give her an orgasm and she never gets the release she wants. Do you have any advice for us, anything we could do different to help her orgasm?

Thanks much

I think you need for her to be more specific about what doesn't feel good. The bladder is located very close to the G Spot and if you apply too much pressure to it, it can be extremely uncomfortable. The two of you will just have to try some new things and see what works best.

Dear BIG VAGINA,
I think it i so great that you started this site. I see that it has helped many people and I feel much happier hearing how other women feel about there vulvas. I have often been shy about my large labia. But when some sweet fellow writes in asking for advice on pleasing his "gf", can't you be a little more informative? I know its subjective- what you like might not be what said GF likes. But give him SOmething! I'm new to the site and the ones I see who are asking, asked quite a while ago. I have answered a bit but i doubt they are still looking. YOU have in your hands the ability to educate an entire population of fine young men who want to understand how to be good lovers!! This is beautiful. Give it to them! I will give my two cents whenever I can also. I know the world is full of variety. But in many cases, I get the sense they are just getting their lips (fee) wet! Give them something to master! It might change the world!!! With respect and appreciation.

It is something that I am looking into. But who really knows what's best? All women like different things. But I'll see what I can do.

This is a great technique not only for situations like the one you describe, but for great orgasms for her generally with minimal risk of hurting her. When she starts pushing hard back against you, shift to a position lying beside her and facing her as she lies on her back. Then place one of her legs over your waist and the other between your legs. Thus your higher (towards the ceiling) thigh is available for her to grasp with her hands and thrust hard against her clitoris. In the meantime, you can enter her in a gentle and controlled way, providing all the continuing internal feeling she can want. She can take control of the speed, depth and pressure of movement while your hands are free to play over her face, hair, breasts, neck shoulders or wherever you both like.

The clitoral pressure is not as direct as it is from a tongue or finger, but no less intense as the muscles of your thigh will move the whole of her perineal and lower stomach area.

Bruce, Has she ever achieved a 'G' spot orgasm? If your just trying for the HOLY GRAIL of orgasms, it may not be attainable. I have tried with five women and not one was able to get a 'G' spot orgams. If you want to keep trying ask her for feedback, you know a little "That's it. You hit the spot,"
does wonders.
Gook luck.
Old Jim