hey, i tried to have sex for the first time, and it hurt like a knife cutting into me, we tried different positions, but it still didnt work, he went in a little, but thats when the pain started. i just want to know if i should keep on trying and deal with the pain, or what? any answers would be helpful. thanx

This can really be tricky because there could be several reasons for this. It could be that your vagina just hasn't adjusted to the loss of your virginity. It could also be that his penis is simply too big for you. If you would like to keep trying, be sure to not let him penetrate you until your vaginal walls have produced enough natural lubrication to make insertion easier. If you find that lots of foreplay still doesn't get you wet enough, then try a nice lubrication and don't be afraid to use it liberally until your body can adjust naturally. On our home page you'll find a link to what I believe is the best lube on the market. Just keep trying and taking it slow. But just know that at the end of the day, he could just be too big for you.

If he is indeed too big or if there is another reason unknown, I would say to try using a dildo. Dont get me wrong, not saying to just get yourself off and forget him. This divice can be a useful tool in getting your sex life on a roll. For one, you are in control. Try different angles, see how deep you are, ect. You can get one that is smaller than your partner. Also, toys can be great foreplay tools, get you properly lubricated and opened up a little, preparing your body for his. And so he doesn't feel left out, you can have him use it on you before intercourse.