What About Us?
The Female Orgasm

Tatisha Jackson

Millions of women around the world engaging in the oldest practice known to mankind are not reaching their peak. In the advanced technological world of vibrators and dildos the females are still often left by the wayside. It is a widely known fact that men come regularly while women regularly don’t. Why is there such a large disparity between the haves and have-nots in the sexual world? Most importantly, how does somebody jump onto the train headed for sexual fulfillment?

Depending on a person’s individual leanings, the reasoning for the lack of female orgasm can come from many places. Those coming from a practical point of view place the responsibility on the placement of the sexual organs. Men, whose organs are external and generally easy to access, have a better chance of reaching climax. The genitalia of women is said to not be as easy to manipulate satisfactorily because her organs extend inward. However, that is not hardly the case. Though female organs may be different from men’s, women do have the only organ on the body solely devoted to sexual excitement--the clitoris. A little bud of flesh composed of ultra sensitive nerve endings, it sits at the top of the vagina within the folds of the labia and can be stimulated with a gentle finger or tongue. Though small in size and stature, the clitoris has the advantage of providing multi-orgasmic pleasure. As a matter of fact, women are able to experience a number of different kinds of orgasms--clitoral, vaginal, g-spot orgasms, ejaculatory orgasms (remember Annie Sprinkler?)--or a combination of them all at one time.

So even with this magic button of joy, why aren’t more women getting off? I firmly believe education is the key to solving the problem. First, it helps to know that less than 35% of women have regular orgasms through intercourse, making climaxing a serious issue for the other 65%. Another problem arises through the stereotypes still perpetuated in relationships. The penchant to see women as less important than the male counterpart automatically negates the female’s sexual satisfaction as insignificant. Also, the vagina is often thought of as "dirty" and described as smelly or "fishy". Negative attributes like those encourage the stick-and-run procedure as opposed to the love-me-tender routine. It is usually hard for a woman to come without foreplay, especially nipple and clitoral stimulus. In an increasingly selfish male dominated society, women are continually asked to forgo self pleasure for the his benefit, thereby giving men the rights to minimal work and maximum reward.

It may look like a hard hill to climb to the promised land, but there are ways to beat the odds. Experts recommend that a woman first take time everyday to familiarize herself with the body. Set aside an hour or two every day to relax and explore the body’s erogenous zones, especially the vagina. This will reveal which parts are more sensitive than others. Next, eliminate all distractions, light the candles, set the music and prepare yourself for masturbation. Using vibrators and/or erotic fantasies is suggested to improve the chances of climax, but with a little practice and relaxation it should be smooth sailing. The main point of relaxation techniques before undergoing such an endeavor is to allow yourself to have the orgasm. Many women still suffer from a subconscious belief that enjoying sex is wrong, whether it be guilt from religious beliefs or sexual abuse. Giving oneself permission to orgasm can remove the pressure to perform that stifles the natural instinct to climax.

Once orgasm has been achieved through masturbation, the next step is to show off the new moves to the sex partner. Once he has learned in detail how to bring the woman to orgasm on his own, the method is then enacted during intercourse to bring about the same effect. In effect, the training of the body to orgasm at certain stimuli is a result of the education of self and the male partner about the womanly body. Finding out what eacj particular woman craves is the key to her sexual fulfillment.

When in doubt just "eat it" !
If you trust her and you are both in a monogomous relationship.

have u ever made a woman cum like that? very few men are skilled in putting it down correctly. i was thirty b4 i came that way. i hope u aint one of them, ah, never mind.....

Those of you who are shy (Blossom) stay off this thread and also those of you who go over board (Philly Fan) skip this thread.Ok now for the rest of you.
I can make a woman Cum using any 8 inch muscle I have and I only have 2 of those so its up to her to choose!
I am not fronting either.If you don\t know what 2 muscles I have that are 8 inches long dont try to guess.

but im too dotcomm old for all that pushing n pullin and not b satisfied. i learned i had to take mine if he aint giving it up.............get aggressive girl, tell that mickey ficky what to do, when, and how. i used to b a lil bashful. but i also learned that a real man love an aggressive woman. well, aggressice in the rite space & time.

so, now im like, 'do it this way', 'no, not like that', 'touch me there', 'faster', 'slower', 'deeper', ok, u get my drift........

now, go practice

I am one of the lucky females. I am multi-orgasmic, from either oral or vaginal stimulation. I am also very comfortable with myself and my sexuality. Maybe that is why I am so fortunate.

CHOCO

why dont yall post some pictures again ..

SILLY!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

LMAO!!!!!!!!!!!

CHOCO

I am trying to make a love connection in here
Just kidding,I have a girl.

But recently through the last few years i've been trying to get feed back from my partners on what they like and don't like but it seems females my age don't really know what satisfies them.So they stay silent and miss their nut.I ain;t knocking them off a second time for my benefit i'm good.i'm tryna give them the same feeling i got if not better.So i tend to have sex with older females cuz their not afraid to say what they want,and they straight reach for my gat,i love that. and when i started eating p*ssy again,all just feeling her twitching and tryna get away and then i lock my arms oh boy!But i def. think more people need to explore their bodies so they can know what they like.

that's y the fellas b hollaring at me like that? thanks for busting my bubble .

newho, y not help her explore/get in tune with herself, or teach her what the older females taught u.

btw- yes, i love that arm lock jawn (did i use it rite?) hehehhe.

actually, it was a older male that taught me to b more agressive...........

I can't believe it.

But I aint complaining cuz I am 39 and my friend is 29. Old enough to know what he is doing, and young enough to do it often.

CHOCO

im 32. i get lil youngins as young as 16 & 17 tryna holla. but i'on swing dat way. i know some chicas who have, i got a serious problem with that. 25 is as low as ill go and he gotta b a 25yo wif the mind of a 40 yo, which would make him my age anyway, feel me?????????

Ya girl Opt is multi orgasmic, and can reach the peak thru oral or p/v sex. I've only been w/ one man, my husband, and I was a virgin til last year, so I'm lucky to have found someone who can put it down so that I, at 26, know what an orgasm is. Ladies, has it ever been so good that you weep and speak in tongues? lol....I'ma testify up in here!

I feel sorry for that 65% of women who don't get off. I wouldn't say it is easy to bring a woman to climax but it ain't that hard and the rewards are so worth it. Your mind is your biggest organ and also the most easily stimulated. With a unselfish approach to sex then any normal partner should be able to comply. I've been told that I'm rather talented but I'm not doing it for my ego. I sincerely like the way most women LOCK up when they reach that level. WTF is that? And why the hell can't men do that? When me & my girl get together it is usually 6 -1 in her favor. Nah mean?

Rick Rude

i've never been able to make my friend reach a climax. he says the only way he'll acheive it is through oral stimulation. and i aint ready to do that yet......................

I've always looked at older is better and not just sexually but experience in general.I think this is just me though thinking like this in my circle of friends.They'd rather get the young young bucks,but that's too easy i need a challenge.I wouldn't try to teach no young jawn nothing a old head taught me cuz more than likely i might just have a one day stand with the young jawn.I don't think that's enough time to find the ends in outs of a person.Usually when i have a old head i'm dealing with them for a nice minute.

But oh yeah the arm lock is vicious.Leaving them dazed and confused.

blind, crippled, crazy, and speaking in tongues.

and yes, opt, i have had one that made me cry cause it was the bomb, the head and the 'head'!

whew, scuse me while i take a shower........

You ain't in memphis r ya? That's what some women have said to me and I'm trynna get back in "touch" lol.

Rick Rude

FOR SOME STRANGE REASON I DON'T CARE FOR RECEIVING ORAL SEX IT'S JUST NOT THAT GOOD TO ME. BUT I CAN HAVE MULTIPLE ORGASMS IF THE DYCK IS GOOD!!!!!!!

I would love to put that to the test. I've been told by some bi-female/friends that I'd give any dyke a run for her money but then I got a coupla other tricks up my sleeve too.

Rick Rude

Without getting too graphic, what's the technique? I may have already experienced this and just didn't know what you were talking about--maybe I refer to it as something else. You or Rick, since y'all was the ones talking about it, could fill me in, don't matter.

This isn't a topic I've ever realy cared about...I always get mine
LMAO

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!

I don't mean like 24/7.....more like 16/7/365. Ya know .......waking hours. Don't dream about it.
It is a very important part of the whole experience. Actually, it is the ONLY reason for the whole experience.

CHOCO

It's nothing crazy na mean,u know when the dude eating ya **** it's like a certain position they be in or at least i do and usually my knees are on the floor and i'm in my eating position and i just grip her legs in a way that she can't possibly break loose so i can kill and she doesn't break away a f*ck up my grove.

K, yeah, now I see what you talking about...the ARMLOCK. Uh huh, it's nice.

I wasn't talking bout an "armlock" which is straight. I was refering to when the woman has an orgasm and her ENTIRE body ,especially her legs contract so hard and tight it's like she's locked. Then they go to talking about "gimme a minute", I can't do nonthing right now, it's too sensitive. Ya know? Don't you, any of you?

Rick Rude

but opt's comment was directed at drew.

sorry to intervene...........


hey ric, ya boy randy savae got a cd coming out. from one wrasling fan to a novva, i aint ready for that.

yeah yeah i know the rock did, but it dont make it rite.......

LOL
Drew you are a funny player

Keep it real or you can keep it

click at ur own risk........


http://users.forthnet.gr/ath/nektar/kma/main.htm

IF IT'S THAT GOOD THAN ALL SETTLE FOR THE D*** AND YOU CAN KEEP THE TRICKS FOR THE KIDS BABY!!

Moral Police is Angry Pooh

I agree with 99.99% of what this article has stated...except when it comes to male cuming, though a man may ejaculate this may not necessarily be for him orgasmic though it may feel good and a release has occurred there are many times when a man comes and he not have a true orgasm.

I believe that men must take the time to please a woman first giving her the full attention she deserves will get her more open please you the way you desire...

Good one Uraeus. How bout this? In thick German accent,"We ave ways ofv making yuu talk" (in tongues of course).

Rick Rude

"Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain." wizard of oz

Why in this day and age are we having this convo??!!!

Are there really women out there that arent gitting off?

HOLYYYYYYYYY SH!!!!!!!TTTTTTT!!!!!!!!!!!!


Well well well dont that beat all. Personally, i was always of the mind that you havent done your job as the man if you dont make the woman cum and cum well. A few times. So becuz of that ive never had a woman not cum with me. And believe im XTRA average in the D.I.C. department so i have only ma skill to rely on.

Damnnnnn Uraeus you really dont like head?!!!! Id like to find the cat that turned you off that and personally make him watch me take yo legs on ma shoulders and...... uh er.. did i just type that?

Neway, I pride masef on ma licking technique, which are second to none, except one female whos title im coming after.

HOLLLLA @ YA BOY Currently takin appointment for conversions.

YOUR FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD BLACKOPS
OPS THE EXCEPTION

i would like to say that ive been in that particular situ a few times. In fact, i would venture to say that we as men can consciously relegate to a matter of course. That means that you do it as a matter of gittin to the next one.

I dont know if this is true of all men but, i find that after ejac im ususally hard for the ensuing 30-45 secs. Ive found that if i can maintain a certain constant of stimulation than i have the ability to immediately follow into another session without her having to "git me there". If yall out there havent tried this give it a shot. It may give you the extra time you need to REALLY test the limits of your skill.

Also, i have a question. Can ne of yall cats "hide" you orgasm from the person that youre sexin? I know that to date no woman has correctly acertained when i came. They only have ma word to go on and i can force masef not to let on thru body or verbal language that i have or am gonna. The second part of that is do you ladies see that as an advantage or a disadvantage on your part?

YOUR FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD BLACKOPS
OPS THE EXCEPTION

YOU BETTA WATCH IS BLACKOPS!! YOU MIGHT MAKE A SISTAH TAKE YA UP ON YOUR OFFER!!!!!!!!!!

YOU BEEN READING THE KAMA SUTRA? MY EXMINISTER DID A CLASS A COUPLE OF YEARS AGO CALLED "COSMIC SEX." IT LIKE TOTALLY BLEW ME BACK!! BECAUSE OF THE 6 WEEK CLASS I HAVE NOT LOOKED AT SEX THE SAME SINCE. I NOW HAVE A PROFOUND AND SPIRITUAL RESPECT FOR THE ACT. ANYWAY, HE NOTED THAT A MAN SHOULD "ALWAYS" HOLD IN HIS EJACULATION UNLESS HE WAS TRYING TO PROCREATE. ONE OF THE REASONS FOR THIS IS THAT MEN TEND TO LOOSE A LOT OF NEEDED ENERGY, PRECIOUS FLUIDS, AND EVEN UP TO A PINT OF BLOOD EVERYTIME HE "CUMS." I HOPE I HAVEN'T STRAYED COMPLETELY AWAY FROM YOUR SUBJECT. THE TECHNIQUE MUST BE PRACTICED WITH YOUR MATE UNTIL IT IS PERFECTED. HOW FUN!!!

HE ALSO SAID THAT WHILE IN THE SEX ACT, IF YOU SQUEEZE A WOMANS ANKLES FROM THE BACK OF HER LEG SHE WILL INSTANTANEOUSLY CLIMAX, A CUPS WORTH OF THAT JUICY STUFF!!! BY THE TIME I TOOK THIS CLASS ME AND THE GUY I WAS SEEING HAD STOPPED TALKING SO I HAD NO ONE TO PRACTICE THE TECHNIQUES WITH. TOO BAD.

OH YEA, ONE MORE THING. WHEN MEN HOLD IN THEIR EJACULATION, THE ORGASMIC HEIGHT IS SUSTAINED AND MORE STIMULATING. YOU SUPPOSEDLY STAY HARD, LONGER AND KEEP MORE ENERGY. ON TOP OF ALL OF THIS THERE ARE SPIRITUAL RAMIFICATIONS THAT YOU BENEFIT FROM. ANY PLAYAS TRIED THIS BEFORE?? HOLLLLLA!!!!!!!!

Tantric Sex? No ive never tried it. I wanted to but never had the benefit of someone i wanted to go thru those particular motions with.

From what ive heard, its quite involved and takes practice and a good bond tween partners. Ive never been afforded a steady "girlfriend" so ive never tried. But perhaps i will.

Btw, does that ankle thing really work? Im def gon try that!!!!



YOUR FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD BLACKOPS!

YOUR FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD BLACKOPS

I faked it once because...why did i fake it.i don't know i think i just didn't want the girl to know i been came along time ago so when she bust or faked whatever u wanna call it i acted like i came.

And i've noticed too blackops that if u can keep a nice rythmn going i don't even need the girl to mess with my gat for it to get hard.I thought i was on some Super Saiyan type sh*t,naw mean get better everytime u do it but at least i'm not the only one that noticed that.

I'm also tryna get some of that tantric sex too.i head u can f*ck for hours and hold ya nut!!!!!!!!!Just madness.gotta get some of that

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO@SUPER SAIYAN!!!

Yeah, i find that i git better @ it everytime. Also, i find that ma technique becomes more tailored to the woman im phukkin with everytime i git down with her.

Does neone else have that happening?

YOUR FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD BLACKOPS

That tantric sex thing is a logical progression for many on this board. I will definitely be exploring that along with other awareness activities. Seems that the perfect "training partners" are all on this board too and live far, far away. (sigh)

Rick Rude

"Pay no attention to the man behind the curtain." wizard of oz

Youre pain is deeply felt brotha

YOUR FRIENDLY NEIGHBORHOOD BLACKOPS

I learned something about this last night