Donna,
This is definitely the place to cope with infertility. You are very lucky that you know what is wrong with you. Unlike some of us, we are unexplained.
At least you know how to handle and address these issues that you are dealing with.
Clomid, ICSI, IVF.... all of these I have done. You have better chances with ICSI than Clomid. It is no big deal...just takes the joy out of BDing. DH has to have sperm collected and they choose the "Best" of the lot so you are guaranteed you have the best option among the swimmers and then inject a needle into your collected egg.... and then the miracle of life happens......hopefully.
Infertility has brought DH and I together. We now talk a lot, grew to support each other very well...and in your case, you have to make him feel that "it is ok" for him to be in his condition because at least he has sperm and not like others who do not have any at all. They quality of the sperm changes from periods of time. Some days when he is stressed or whatever activities he does...you get very poor quality, other days he gets megacounts of sperm and although there are twinheads most times, there may be more better quality shaped ones at other times.
But the fact remains, it will not be that easy to have a baby.... maybe difficult.... but maybe not that impossible.
It is ok for both of you to feel angry with yourselves... but take control as you have to be the stronger of the 2.... Easy to say but you have to try.
If all else fails, IVF is the next step where you have better chances of conception.
Vitamin C, pumpkin seeds apparently makes better sperm ... try anything even if it is just for laughs.
Positive thinking makes the heart grow fonder.... and may lead to that bundle of joy.
