Get off the passive-aggressive bandwagon.

It doesn't work for Gertard and it doesn't work here.

You've been "outed" for trying to "artfully play the victim" in a feeble attempt to show some viciousness of your "beloved Rat pack". You fail to understand the fatal flaws of that tactic, and fail to understand that there isn't any viciousness there, so your "labels" aren't going to stick.

First, people can see through the "wolf in sheeps clothing" on this, so you hardly play the victim well.

Second, you're setting yourself up on a dependency, and a dysfunctional dependency at that. While displaying the passive-aggressive traits your son accuses everyone else of posessing.

When you realize that you're in a hole, the wisest decision is to simply stop digging.