Come on Jules...you're being a bit melo-dramatic aren't you?
I have tried to help Ger before. He bites the hand that feeds him. He's had your kind of help all his life in the form of his mommy fighting his battles. He needs to feel the consequences of his actions. Only then will he be helped. He is the only person that can do what needs to be done....change his character....or develop it.
I'd say your kind of coddling has actually gotten him to the place he's in. Maybe if he realized that this kind of thing was unacceptable a long time ago he'd conform to social norms.
Jesus says alot about shaking the dust and not casting pearls. I take the whole of what he says, not just the feel-good stuff. But that's another tactic of Ger's....he or his ppl constantly questioning the Christianity of others based on how much they're willing to take it up the wazoo from Ger.
Sorry, not playing. Getting onto others might correct their character, but it's a diversion. The person's character that needs addressing is Ger's...not others who note his complete and utter destructive behavior. If you want to talk about destroy, you should talk to Ger and let him know that he reaps what he sows-as a matter of Godly principal.