I didn't see that the other day, I'm sorry! It's very helpful.
I only found my OB because I needed someone local to help me with my Cornell workup and f/u. So well into my IF. We don't have a lengthy relationship. It's not a solo practice, and although I like her and the office okay, and I also like the hospital where she has privileges, some things have also happened over the course of this battle that have made me a little uncomfortable. For example, when I asked if she would do a polypectomy, she rolled her eyes and said she doesn't make her pts who are trying to get pg get rid of a little polyp. And then after she was in there she said the fibroids were nothing...later I had to have an extensive myomectomy. Granted the nasty little sucker grew under the influence of stims, but it just left me wondering.
We are west of Boston, about 45 mins. Because of my previous life in health care, I'm tough on community hospitals. In general they don't attract the staff or funding to provide the best care. There are certainly exceptions. But that's the worry I start with, so I don't rule out traveling to Boston or Worcester. I would welcome any recommendations, MDs always know the best MDs. The current OB has privileges at Emerson and they actually look pretty good for L&D.
Gosh, warm and fuzzy would be a really nice break after IVF factory style. Everybody, line up and drop your panties!

The genetic counselor is a great suggestion. It's a career path I considered following (to the point that I applied to programs), so I have just enough background to probably be a terrible PITA. Lol! I curse the graduate work in biostatistics now.