Response from an ex-poster - loss ment.May 9 2012 at 12:20 PM
|ZakiaZ (Login ZakiaZ)|
Response to It's time for me to sign off
I left these boards a while back for many reasons but because of some people on here who I cared very much about, I lurked for a while and have posted occasionally. I'm glad that I lurk so that I could catch posts like yours.
First of all - You have a lot to contribute because of your journey. There are probably hundreds of women who in lurking, read these forums and find comfort and hope in everyone's story including yours. Pls don't give anyone the power to take that from them.
Secondly - I checked the other forum and right away I sensed - malice, anger and jealousy coming from the other poster. I once found myself in your very position right here on this board. Had a stalker attack my each and every post with vile and malicious anon responses. I stuck it out, with the support of others and thankfully was able to offer hope and encouragement. The trolls disappeared or may still be around for all I care.
Thirdly - The venom coming from that person may very well be indicative of the pain that she's in. In the interest of your own Karma and internal peace, it's better to send out sympathy to people like that. Don't stay there and put up with their hostility if you don't want to, otoh, leave if you really don't want to be there, but don't leave because they are pushing you out. Don't give them that win. Others will support you. Some people simply HAVE to be the most popular and will attack and push out anyone who challenge their status.
Fourthly - I don't believe in religion or god and I would (as you wisely pointed out) appreciate it if someone indicated that that was included in the content of their post, so that I could choose to read or not to read it, just like we all give warning if for e.g. a loss would be mentioned in the body of a post. For the poster to attack your helpful response was quite petty and rediculous on her part.
Lastly - I'm one who tends to not take it seriously when people announce their departure from these forums because someone rubbed them the wrong way. I have seen this used many times in an effort to either throw a large pity party to gain pleads to stay, or to make someone else look bad. Clearly this is NOT the case with your announcement so I will do something that I never ever do in response to those type of announcement posts and say "Please don't go". Your contributions on here and the other forum, are way more valuable than anything that other poster could say to you. If it is indeed the moderator - SHAME ON HER!!!! You can see from this forum and the playgroup and the over 40 with high fsh group, that the monitors are very loving, caring and mature women who do care about their posters and will never berate or torment them. If it is someone else, then have pity on them because if they are indeed childless (as the poster pointed out she is), then their pain 'could' be running so deep and dark that their thought process is completely poisoned towards those who either have success, or have found a way to come to terms with their position in life around ttcing without success.
Your worth on here is priceless.
|This message has been edited by ZakiaZ on May 9, 2012 12:27 PM|
- Thanks Z and others (everything ment) - Alli on May 9, 2:32 PM
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