You've been on my mind often these past few days.
If you do have to do the D+C, its not that bad at all and you will feel physically "okay" in a few days. Your first AF might be a bit heavy but it's a pretty quick recovery.
I have passed m/c's naturally and had D+C's and my better experience was the D+C's, physically and emotionally.
You remain in my prayers, you are very strong.