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Update on bleeding at 16 wks (possible m/c ment.)

August 7 2012 at 3:54 AM
Marti  (Login longing4baby)

First of all, thank you to everyone for your support. On Sunday night, my DH went out to get dinner and I had a horrible incident of hemorrhaging at home. I will never forget his face when he walked in the bathroom that looked like a crime scene. Instead of going to my OB's hospital, i went to the closest hospital emergency room. The tests revealed I had a short cervix (1.06 cm) and Baby A had lost amniotic fluid and for the first time was measuring smaller than Baby B in measurements and weight; heartbeats were 160 and 153. On Monday, I called my OB who immediately referred me to my maternal fetal medicine doctor and they asked me to go in immediately since she was leaving on vacation. The MFM doctor confirmed the shortened cervix measurement, heartbeats were 143 and 128, still had no explanation for the bleeding episodes and said there was nothing else that could be done except "wait and see." When I asked her to explain her approach, it basically meant to wait and see when I miscarried because the cervix was too short to sustain a pregnancy. I asked about progesterone supplements and was told it would not work. I asked about a cerclage and was told it was too dangerous because of all the bleeding. I asked what would happen if Baby A didn't make it and she said Baby B would quickly follow and the shortened cervix may mean I was having contractions with the heavy cramping I had been having with the bleeding. For all my questions, this doctor kept staring at me to make a decision to agree with her opinion. No other options seemed to be open for dicussion and I was sent home with an appointment in 8 days to "see" the condition of my shrinking cervix. Now, I am irrationally angry...I am looking for a second opinion, reading everything I can get my hands on about cervical conditions and making my own plan of action. I do not understand why I sometimes feel I have to give deferrence and authority to someone in a white coat when I am part of the team. It's not like I can just run and get pregnant again in a few months....which is what I was made to feel with the "wait and see" approach, this is not just information we can use in the next pregnancy....I am still pregnant now!!! My babies have been hanging in for 21 days besides the heavy bleeding for 15 of those days!!! I thank you for listening and appreciate any insight you have.

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  1. I'm so sorry - Antonialisa on Aug 7, 9:29 AM
    1. Appreciative - Marti on Aug 7, 10:16 AM
  2. This is terrible, I am so sorry. - Sara H on Aug 7, 9:47 AM
    1. Thank you! - Marti on Aug 7, 10:18 AM
  3. Oh no I'm so sorry - gone_fshn on Aug 7, 9:53 AM
    1. No explanation offered - Marti on Aug 7, 10:27 AM
      1. Wow that's sort of ridiculous.... - gone_fshn on Aug 7, 5:47 PM
  4. I am so sorry Marti - Erin on Aug 7, 10:07 AM
    1. Thank you for the P4 suggestion - Marti on Aug 7, 10:31 AM
  5. Re: Update on bleeding at 16 wks (possible m/c ment.) - teresa on Aug 7, 11:40 AM
    1. Thanks for the continued prayers - Marti on Aug 7, 12:28 PM
      1. Starting P4 and advice on dealing w/ doctors... - Erin on Aug 7, 1:38 PM
        1. Great advice - Marti on Aug 7, 3:42 PM
        2. It worked! - Marti on Aug 7, 5:33 PM
          1. That is AWESOME - Teresa on Aug 7, 5:44 PM
          2. I'm SO glad!!! - Erin on Aug 7, 5:50 PM
          3. Awesome!!! nt - Alli on Aug 8, 2:27 PM
      2. Re: Thanks for the continued prayers - Teresa on Aug 7, 2:05 PM
        1. Not in my opinion - Marti on Aug 7, 3:48 PM
          1. I wish - Teresa on Aug 7, 5:32 PM
            1. It worked! - Marti on Aug 7, 5:41 PM
              1. Very happy to hear - Teresa on Aug 7, 5:46 PM
  6. I'd try another MFM stat - Alli on Aug 7, 11:57 AM
    1. Seems to take an act of congress - Marti on Aug 7, 12:35 PM
      1. I understand - Alli on Aug 7, 2:09 PM
      2. I live in San Antonio (past success ment and m/c ment) - futurebeauty on Aug 7, 11:14 PM
        1. Omgoodness!!! - Marti on Aug 8, 6:31 AM
          1. wow! - Mrs. A on Aug 8, 11:58 AM
          2. I am glad you are consulting w/ him - futurebeauty on Aug 8, 6:58 PM
  7. I'm so sorry - mel on Aug 7, 12:28 PM
    1. Thanks for the good thoughts - Marti on Aug 7, 12:36 PM
  8. i am so sorry - BroodyHen on Aug 7, 12:51 PM
    1. Thanks for thinking of me - Marti on Aug 7, 3:00 PM
  9. so sad and bewildering! - Mrs. A on Aug 7, 4:21 PM
    1. Sincere thanks' - Marti on Aug 7, 6:44 PM
      1. I am so looking praying for a good outcome for you! - Mrs. A on Aug 8, 1:03 PM
  10. Marti, I am so sorry! - Laura on Aug 7, 7:55 PM
    1. Knees :) Thanks - Marti on Aug 7, 9:28 PM
  11. T&P (mc mentioned) - Newbie on Aug 7, 9:04 PM
    1. Appreciative of your sentiment - Marti on Aug 7, 9:34 PM
  12. Dr. Davis will do a rescue TVCIC. - Whitney on Aug 8, 12:20 AM
    1. Thanks! - Marti on Aug 8, 6:34 AM