Over 40 and with serious MF. We live in MA where we were told we'd never have a bio child. Got pg in NY at Cornell.
It's so personal figuring out when to try something different, but I am glad we didn't give up on OE/S when we were first told it was over (MA Gen advised DE/DS). Our first IVF in NY was a cancel, but the 2nd one took. Total TTC time for pg #1 = 6 yrs.
Good stories are out there, make sure you get a healthy dose of them along with trying to sort through your medical advice and options! Good luck to you.