Over 40 Anna (no login) Posted Sep 5, 2011 2:23 AM
Sorry for your SIL's response. The remark about being glad that her kids and grandkids never had to go to daycare is pure mommy wars cattyness. DD's been in daycare since she was 3 months old and she's thriving. I know she's supposed to be terribly deprived since mommy is so selfish as to work full time (to pay the mortgage, contribute to the college fund, etc) but she's a well adapted child who is ahead of all of her peers (yes mommy likes to brag). Some daycares are better than others but daycare itself isn't bad.
And for the comment about being old, I have to say I can understand that response, even though I know it's catty. I have almost 2 year old daughter and am 41. I think if I knew you in real life and heard your story I'd think about how you'll be tired all of the time. Motherhood is EXHAUSTING. But the joys of motherhood override the exhaustion.
But now that you're pregnant, as far as society is concerned, you don't really matter anymore. Strangers are free to give you advice about 1) how to give birth, 2) how to feed your child, 3) how to dress your child, 4) how to discipline your child, etc. etc. etc. Just wait until you're showing and you'll see what I mean. It's really weird how strangers on the street feel perfectly free to judge you for your parenting choices.