by Rick Warren
For the Holy Spirit, Gods gift, does not want you to be afraid of people, but to be wise and strong, and to love them and enjoy being with them. 2 Timothy 1:7 (LB)
When Adam and Eve sinned and God came looking for Adam, Adam said, I was afraid and I hid. (Genesis 3:10 ESV) This fear is as old as mankind. We hide our true selves. We dont let people know what were really like. Why? Because we think, What if I tell you who I am and you dont like me?
Fear does three terrible things to relationships:
Our fears make us defensive. Were afraid to reveal ourselves. When people point out weaknesses, we retaliate and defend ourselves.
Our fears keep us distant. We dont let people get close to us. We want to withdraw and hide our emotions. We dont want to be open and honest.
Our fears make us demanding. The more insecure we are, the more we try to control or dominate things. We try to have the last word in a relationship. This is always a symptom of fear and insecurity.
Where do you get the courage for taking the first step in resolving conflict? It comes from Gods Spirit in your life: For the Holy Spirit, Gods gift, does not want you to be afraid of people but to be wise and strong [courageous] and to love them and enjoy being with them (2 Timothy 1:7 LB).
The starting point in connecting with anyone is to pause and pray, God, help me to take the first step toward resolving this conflict.