Your not the only one

by S R B

I had my tubal almost 8 1/2 years ago at age 20 and I did it just for my husband. We had had a very difficult birth with our last child and he had decided that we didn't want anymore children. I had always wanted 3 but I thought that I could live with 2 (boy and a girl). So, I went along with it. Durring this time my husband had been having kidney and bladder problems and it just wasn't a good idea to get him fixed. It sounded like a tubal was the answer. On the day it was to happen, I lay on the operating table crying my eyes out because I didn't want it to happen. My husband just told me I was scared to have the surgery he didn't really understand. Now, I really think that he now regrets having said that. I have totaly lost my sex drive, cripling depression, gained aprox 60 lbs that I can't loose no matter what exercises or pills I take. I feel as though my insides are falling out when I have a period, they are 10x heavier now, and I'm constantly tired. I really wish that I never have had this done or done it just to make him happy. I love my husband but I think I really resent him for having me do this. I don't know if he knows truly about all the side effects that I'm experiencing, because if he did he would feel guilty. After having the tubal done I went back to the doctor and I was told that it was all in my head and that no woman had ever told him about any of these symptoms after a tubal. I was more or less ridiculed at the doctor told it was all in my head and not to believe anything I read on the internet. I have now been to 10 GYN's and still have no answers. I emplore anyone not to have this done! Don't put yourself through the missery for nothing!! Most of all don't let someone else make your decision for you. It's your body be aware be informed. I love my husband but Yeah I do resent him. I would love to have that baby now.

Posted on Jul 6, 2007, 8:08 AM

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