My boyfriend is the only person I've had sex with, we've been together for years. Anyway I recently went on a 7 month trip to another country to study. When I came back and we had sex, afterward my vagina was REALLY SORE and she felt swollen on the inside and when I sat down she hurt, when I stood up she hurt and it felt like that for the next few days. We had sex again another day and the same thing with the swollen on the inside happened again. I know that he got bigger during that 7 month(he measured it) and I know because I wasnt having sex my vagina got tighter. It just feels like my vagina is really tight and she's not as stretchable as she used to be, anyone else know what i"m talking about? what can I do to get her looser because even when we start having sex he'll only have the head in and it will hurt.

He is NOT spending enough time with foreplay before going in.

If you are not really really wet? You are going to be sore.

Now there are all kinds of lubricants you can buy in any drug store to help get wet. Nor do you get smaller or larger inside from intercourse

Please let the guy know so he can help you and not enter until he is sure your wet enough to go inside. No need to end up with pain after making love.

You were away for 7 months without any sexual intercourse I imagine. For that period of time a vagina will get tighter because things haven't been inserted to "loosen" it. Therefore when you've had sex it's started to hurt again like when you were a virgin (tight). Be pleased that you are tighter as this is a good thing.
However make sure next time you have intercourse or about to that he spends alot of time with foreplay, inserting fingers during oral sex, one finger at a time often makes you wetter and streches you enough for intercourse.
Using lubrication before and during sex will make it alot easier for you both and intensify his sensations while having sex with you.
For a little while try not to do pelvic floor muscle excersises as this will make you even more tighter....
IF all else fails and it still hurts, see a gp for advice and an examination they will be able to eliminate any problems and advise on solutions.

Good advice above, and also: The more you worry about this, the less relaxed you are going to feel. If you're not relaxed, it's going to be hard to feel horny, if you're not horny then it's going to hurt. Even if this guy did grow bigger (how I don't know) it shouldn't make any difference long term, as your vagina will easily be able to accomodate him.

we did it again and it was great. I'm not sore anymore. thanks everyone for the advice

great ashley. years ago when girls were mostly virgins on their wedding night, they often got "honeymoon-itis" from suddenly having sex three times per day, their vagina was not used to all the friction. so the hubby had to drastically cut back to one fuck every second day until his bride's vagina could handle it.

after a few weeks all was "hunky-dorie" and they could fuck as much as their appetite demanded. quite a few brides paid a visit to their Doctor during the honeymoon because of soreness, and many new husbands had to be masturbated (by themself or wife) to let the sperm out.

if a guy replaces sperm slowly, he will only want sex 1-3 times per week.
If a guy replaces sperm rapidly, he will want sex as often as he can get it.

peak weekly sperm production is at 18, then it declines all his life as his testosterone levels slowly fall (and at the same time quantity of body muscle reduces).

sperm builds up in the prostrate gland and when it is full signals go to the brain to find a vagina to squirt it in to. at puberty, teenager boys make a lot of sperm each week so their prostrate signals them to masturbate to release it, unless a willing girl is available for sex.

guys claim they always feel fantastic after sex release (as though they have won a Lottery prize)

first, how old are you?

Teenage's vagina wall is lame. They were meant "not ready yet" for having such hard thing. Furthermore, if the guy didn't execute well for the sexual aura and foreplay session.

You've got to see doctor should if the pain won't be better. It may cause an infection, which will be simultaneously be happened after-sex occasion.

Another possibility may be caused, you're nervous. Same, your guy didn't procreate well. Maybe he's entering too fast or a rough play. It's different, to penetrate a virgin with a high flying-hour sexual experienced girl.