hEYY,
Me and my bf have been trying to have sex for over a year now! Every time we try nothing happens literally. Neither of us feel anything. People say its because im young and my hymens not broken. Wait, actually im really confused, i dont know wher it is located...
Somoene please help me understand
Is there somthing wrong with me
"hEYY,
Me and my bf have been trying to have sex for over a year now! Every time we try nothing happens literally. Neither of us feel anything. People say its because im young and my hymens not broken. Wait, actually im really confused, i dont know wher it is located...
Somoene please help me understand
Is there somthing wrong with me"
======Against my better judgment I will reply directly to your question because you are logged in with the question.
So 1: How old are you?
Two You have kissed the guy on the lips right? What does it feel like?
2: What do you use for absorption during your periods? Tampons or Pads?
3: What do you mean by having Sex?
4: Have you ever looked at yourself with a mirror in your Genital region?
5: Have you ever taken a basic course in school in Sex Education?
Just how far have the two of you gone with making love?
I am 15 years old- and yes, i have kissed my bf more then i have aten dinner for the whole of my life. Me an my bf have had dry sex and i have gaven him oral sex heaps of times. He has also fingered me, but he only did that a couple of times then he stopped. I have recently looked at my genital area with a mirror && i am really confused whats whats and where the hell is the hymen located?
I use pads for my period, i have tried tampons but find it diffficult and very uncomfortable.
I know the basics of sex, i just have no idea of where what goes where and whats suppposed to happen.
I am so confused!!
I am 15 years old- and yes, i have kissed my bf more then i have aten dinner for the whole of my life. Me an my bf have had dry sex and i have gaven him oral sex heaps of times. He has also fingered me, but he only did that a couple of times then he stopped. I have recently looked at my genital area with a mirror && i am really confused whats whats and where the hell is the hymen located?
I use pads for my period, i have tried tampons but find it diffficult and very uncomfortable.
I know the basics of sex, i just have no idea of where what goes where and whats suppposed to happen.
I am so confused!!"
===========First and most important and this is from a Guy who really knows for a fact that even with Birth Control - I have a daughter as a result of a Quality Brand of Condom.
So the first decision you must make is - Are you fully prepared at the tender age of 15 to become pregnant? On this forum I will be 100% honest with you. I am not telling you this just because you are 15 - You could have said you were 25 and my reply would be the same up to this point. Sex can and often does lead to Pregnancy - No known method of birth control is 100% effective. I have friends who have children and they were on Birth control pills. My brother is the result of a failure of a "Diaphragm" method of Birth Control.
So now you need some basic Anatomy 101
http://www.tsroadmap.com/physical/srs/femanat.jpg
Because you can see the Vaginal opening clearly - There is no Visible Hymen. Member Bleh has told us she still has remnants of some Hymen left. So to show you what the Hymen is all about
These are not Great Images but for now they should be enough to help you understand. The fact that you said "i have tried tampons but find it diffficult and very uncomfortable."
Best guess is that you have a Hymen intact - and just because you tell us
"i just have no idea of where what goes where and whats suppposed to happen.
I am so confused!!"
===========So first of all - You are having Sex because Oral Sex is Sex!!!! President Bill Clinton differed to agree about this and a few others may also Disagree. In my personal opinion Oral Sex is an more intimate act then regular Vaginal Intercourse. However because most men are never penetrated and women are always penetrated re Vaginal Intercourse - I can understand why a few think that without Penis Penetration its not called Sex - But it really is!!
So at some point when you are mature enough to become pregnant even by accident - Where your Menstrual flow comes out (The Vagina) that is where a mans Penis is going to go in and penetrate you.
Since you have said a Tampon is not comfortable - Well just consider that its sort of soft and thin and not long - Any normal erect Penis is going to be much larger/longer/harder/
Normally I use Google for a Search Engine - However this time I used http://www.ask.com/?tool=img
I think I may try this more often because it gave me for your question a faster response to the question for images
Girls Hymen - However that was using Google Images
With Google Web this is really a good site to read because it does describe the Hymen as a Thin Membrane and the illustrations are better yet not as complete as the ask.com examples I found for you.
So you not only have some more reading to do, I think you will find a lot of answers on the side bar a
http://www.youngwomenshealth.org/hymen.html
Now one last comment for now - Be very careful with your boyfriend when he ejaculates and do not let any of that sperm anywhere near your Vagina - even on the outside because and I have seen my own sperm on a microscope slide - They are fast moving and will fight their way inside you and if you have blood flow during a period as you say you are having - those sperm can move right inside for what may seem like a Virgin pregnancy.
You're not old enough to loose your virginity, you don't even know your anatomy. So to assume you'd know all about babies and what you want to do with your future. I'd suggest stopping and slowing down the pace of the relationship.
I lost my virginty when I was 15 and I would do anything to turn back the clock and give it to my current boyfriend. But this is real life and things like that wont ever happen.
So to save you this displeasure I will tell you, that possibly the guy you're with right now will take your virginity for granted. He possibly will tell all of his school friends to appear cool, you possibly will end up getting pregnant and because of you having sex, you may get called bad names, you may be a laughing stock because you became pregnant at such a young age, your parents will be pissed at you if they ever found out and I imagine you and your boyfriend wont be together in 20 years.
Would you possibly go through all this negativity just to say "I've had sex?" well life isn't perfect and the above can happen to you.
I'd suggest talking to an older relative (sister, brother or cousin). Someone you can talk to freely with confidence. Be mature about this sex although a pleasure as dude has said it has it's consequences.
How in this day and age anyone at her age does not even know about her Basic Anatomy is beyond me.
However over the years I have met grown women who needed my suggestion of using a hand mirror and I will never forget being on a trip with friends - Wine tasting over a few days and in multiple RV campers. The friends were all in their 20's-30's and it was a Ski club doing summer fun trips.
The RV I was in had a selection of VCR X Rated porn tapes.
By day 3 all of us in the RV were bored with them. That evening the girls from the adjacent RV came over and wanted to watch a tape. So I put a tape in and hit play and started to read a book.
At one point and Hip Attorney asked to stop the tape and go back to look again at - - She said out loud at a close up of a Vagina - So thats what it looks like down there!!
I wanted to laugh but held that back. Still can picture her face as she did stop motion to see what she might look like.
No I did not suggest out loud she locate a hand mirror and check herself out but I sure thought about it.
I would think that at least at her age she could describe what parts she had down there and what they were all about. However I have met more then one gal who needed some help finding her own Clitoris, or understanding about the Hood and what might be under there.
Then there are the stories from Doctors about young couples where the guy tried to penetrate the pee hole and damaged it.
I have an Ex who is an OB-Gyn - She in fact turned me on to this forum and told me about damage to female bodies as a result of not understanding basic Anatomy.
How are people not curious of themselves? I found out what a vagina was because my mother told me. When she was having my baby brother (I was 11) I was given a book.
This always fascinated me how those bits work. Schools should be teaching kids about this, but to what degree?
Google does wonders if you are unsure of anything within your life, someone else is always feeling and done/doing the same!
Also how did this girl get a membership? Surely she is not old enough to come onto this site.
I would like slight advice as to how far we can go into describing and/or telling of our experiences. I would love to tell this young lady the "rubbish" motions of sex at 15 and the emotions surrounding the events.
However can we go this deep, considering she is only a child? Any hints?
I would wait to see if she asks you. Where the server is located for this forum one does have free speech. You can just about say whatever is on our mind.
Notice I warn those who come on to teens because when an adult does that they are breaking a law - so that kind of thing aside I think you can roll out the punches if you feel like it.
Nut case? I thought I asked a few good questions and then after she replied I provided some basic information. I try and do my best but hey I r but one dude and maybe you could have done a better job?
A Dude, a lot of girls are virgins at 20 years of age and have never had a boyfriend. They don't always hve access to the internet. 98% of the people in the world DO NOT have asn internet connection. Large numbers of girls DO NOT get sex education. I know a girl who was told by her mother, "don't stand too close to a boy when you are dating, or you will get pregnant", so when she went out on dates, she would stand back from him most of the time.
I am not trying to knock you down, A Dude, but you must realise that Americans are lucky to have sex education in schools. The western world is just a small percentage of the world. A lot of the world still believes that an education for a girl is a STUPI and RIDICULOUS WASTE of money.
A lot of females lose their lives each year because of "honor killings" from brothers feeling humiliation because their sister was talking to a man without a brother or father being present. The perception is that the sister/daughter was imagining sex with the guy, and therefore the thought is the same as sinful reality.
A Doctor examined a Middle East wife who was stressed out that she had not been able to give her husband a child - her husband had been having anal sex with her, and she did not know that vaginal sex was what made babies. The Doctor could not tell the wife the truth, because his throat would have been slit by the husband or someone else appointed by him to get revenge.
There are a lot of arranged mariages, and lot of wives who are not allowed to know about sex until their husband TEACHES THEM on the wedding night.
You don't realise how lucky you are to have sex with such a large number of females in your life. There are a lot of girls who would be stoned to death if they told anyone that they wanted to experience sex before marrige, or heavens forbid, actually get fucked by more than one penis in their lifetime.
Your points are accurate. I made one assumption that the 15 year old did have access to the net because she was on the net and finding this web forum would require the use of a search engine.
I have met a number of women who were in arranged marriages or were planing to get married that way. University students from Muslim countries. Men as well who's family was arranging their marriage.
Hard to imagine but they would tell me how well that works for them. So yes I agree we are lucky. I do remember one event I will share re my preteen years. I found a photo in the street and it was a gal with breasts but she had a penis. Since I had never heard of Transvestites, you can imagine my confusion. Took me years and years before I realized what the photo was all about.
For myself I used a library a great deal to learn about sex. However I found that limiting because after reading mass chapters on oral sex, where they cautioned about too much pressure or attention to the Clitoris - In practice most of my partners would ask for more pressure with my tongue. That area is very complex as too what each girl prefers!!
Before we get carried away Chrissie deal with the situation in hand...
The girl clearly has the net and is from a developed country no doubt she'd of been educated rgearding her sex life!
So before you go off on one at A Dude, think about what you've just stated, it has no relevance to the situation/topic/question.
Go on the ranting raid somewhere needed, coz this aint it!
At 15 in Europe/America/Developed countries she'd of been educated to an extent regarding her bits. It's upto the parents or her own curiosity how far she leanrs about it. She has the internet resource and probably a library card... Go use them!!