I broke up with my bf 6 days ago and I've been crying for 6 days.

We were together for almost 4 years and we never made love because we didn't want to do it without marriage. Since both of us are still students we never even planned for marriage.

I miss him sooo much, I loved him so bad, I think about him a lot and hope he is not hurting like me right now.

He made me feel so good, he made me laugh, he was my best friend, I don't know what I am gonna do without him, I got used to him being part of my life.

sometimes I think I wish I had never met him, this way I wouldn't be hurting like this right now.

We met online, he lives in another state, so we spent all the time on the phone. he came to visit 4-5 times a year and stays 3-7 days at a time. I know this is short time but we spent so much time on the phone that we knew each other very well

I just don't want to do this long distance thing any more. I want a regular relationship where we can spend most of the time together in person.

I want to go eat together, to go places together, to watch movies together
we did that when he came to visit but I want more of it, I want a regular life and a regular relationship.

I told him we are both hurting each other becuase maybe we can find other people who live nearby for both of us to have a regular relationship.

He said we can stay friends and I said yes, I texted him on Xmas morning to wish him a merry xmas and he text me back but that is it he never called and never anything.

I want to call him soooooo bad, I just wanna hear his voice, I wish things can go back as before, but I don't want to....

I know it would never work that is why I wanted to end.


**********should I call him back just to say hi and how are you??
Please tell me I need someone to come through
I am gonna cry myself to sleep

Long distance relationships are mostly painful because it is un-natural to love someone but not be able to touch them.

Go out with a new guy ASAP even if it is just to be "friends only" for awhile. You will discover that you can have a good time with someone else.

I think your body is wanting sexual intimacy, and you are getting frustrated at waiting such a long time. It was your boyfriend who said "no sex please".

Listen to your heart about what your "hidden needs" are, and then look for a guy who will help you enjoy those needs.

If your distance b/f was hurting inside, your text machine would be running wild with messages, even if they were only "I am missing you".

Give him the "gift of missing you" and look for his replacement. If he misses you enough, he will chase you before another guy snaps you up.

You have proven yourself as being a reliable person to date long-term, but you are now on the end of the diving platform, with an urge to leap into a better life.

The question is, "do you believe there is a new guy waiting for you? Or do you want the comfort of your ex who is not ready to commit after four years?

You definitely need to be living close to the person you love. If you still want your ex, then find a way to be with him 24/7. It does not make sense to live in different parts of the country.

You living like a Nun does, and there are too many lonely nights.
You need loving cuddles at least three times per week for good mental health.

ask your friends to arrange a blind date with another guy, and enjoy his company and maybe a hug and a kiss. that will give u confidence to realise it is time to shake your wings and fly off with another guy to his magic castle. your current b/f should be holding u in his arms as often as most days, not a fucking long way away. someone needs to kick his bum and talk sense to him. u deserve better, so go get it NOW,NOW, NOW, NOW !!!!! let another guy kiss your salty tears on your face and tell u words of love that u need to hear, and take u out with his friends to make your life more happy.
i would live in a tent if necessary 2 b with my boyfriend if he was in another part of the country.

Not having sex at all in a relationship is honorable but very risky. Guys who have already had sex want more and will not wait long before they have more. Guys who have never had it, go wild for the woman who gives it to him. Some girls are able to keep their men without intercourse by having strictly an oral relationship and making sure he is satisfied that way. Its very difficult for men to have a beautiful woman and not want sex with her. Women need to think practicly in these cases. This is a common tactic in these cases.

Walk, cycle, hitch a ride, take a bus, catch a train, fly in a plane - but go and be with the guy you love. Pitch a tent on his lawn outside his window if necessary, but make sure you can at least hold his hand and give him a smile every day. Living in other towns just does not work.