My girlfriends have sex with several boys on the same date and often try to get me to go with them to "taste a fuck", but I am too scared as I have not yet had sex with anyone yet. I am 15 and age of consent here is 14, so other girls say I should have started my sex life long before now. They think I have a low sex drive and might get left on the shelf with loneliness because word will get around guys that I could be a secret lesbian and therefore not very good to marry. So how do I stop myself being scared of what might happen if I go with my friends to their parties with alcohol?
Wait and wait until you are ready and don't be pushed by your peers. You'll enjoy it more when it's done with love rather than the slam, bang, thankyou ma'm from boys who ONLY want sex - not a relationship.
Okay, your friends are enjoying lots of sex and obviously want you to get your share because you are their friend.
But sex doesn't work like that. Being scared means your intuition is saying that you are not yet ready for sex - so wait until it changes its mind. It is trying to protect you.
The best sex you will ever have is with someone you love, because being in love sends a surge of oxytocin hormone around your bloodstream when he holds you in his arms and kisses you. If you enjoy his kisses, your vagina will become very wet and your breasts may feel tingly, your heart will speed up and you can even feel a strong desire to take off your clothes and put your skin against his.
Sex is not as much fun if you are not in love. A lot of sex takes place when young people are drunk or on drugs and they may not make a good choice who they have sex with.
One day you will wake up and feel that you are ready for sex. You might be 16, 18 or even 23. Hopefully, it might be with a guy who wants to put a wedding ring on your finger.
In the meantime, have lots of friends of both gender so that you have choices to who you accept dates with.
Your libido does not reach a peak until 35, so no one can accuse you of having a low sex drive at 15.
Your sex drive stays "switched on low speed" if you are not comfortable with the guys who are asking to have sex with you. It switches to a higher speed automatically if you are in love. Best speed happens when you are engaged to be married.
Always trust your feelings because they tell you the truth about yourself. It you have doubts, hold off until another time....then ask yourself the questions, "does this feel right, will it make have regrets?"
I admire girls who "hold out" for a better day, a better occasion, a better guy. Second best will leave you disappointed and less able to reach your potential. If you don't feel love, leave sex for another time when you are more likely to enjoy it better. A lot of guys like a fuck and next day they will be hitting on your best friend to get a fuck from her as well. I heard of a group of young girls who put their names in a hat at a party, and then had sex with the guy who pulled their name out. But I would not recommend it because there is no love attached to the act...just the knowledge that a different guy will pull your name out of the hat next time. The girls said it was a way of definitely getting a fuck for the night rather than hoping it would happen. But what happens if birth control fails and you have a baby the guy does not want to take responsibility for because you were just a "one night stand from a name in the hat", and because he dosen't even like you, and he has moved onto other girls he likes better since that night.
3 guys r definitely better, but difficult 2 choose which 1 u want 2 marry as they all know your body secrets - and the other 2 might want 2 continue 2 fcuk u after marriage while your husband is at work, and u will find it hard 2 say "no" 2 them because they have had u so many times b4.
Even Princess Diana found her marriage "too crowded" with Prince Charles keeping Camilla Parker-Bowles in the shadows.
Alcohol stops young ladies feeling scared, and definitely increases their chances of getting sex from guys. But the wrong guy might ask you for sex and you may be too drunk to stop him pulling down your panties and sucking your titties. You might fall asleep and wake up with your vagina full of sperm from several guys "stirring porridge" then slipping out the back door so you never know who the father of your baby is. I know about this stuff bcause it happened to me at 14 and my Dad kicked me out on the street, so I had to live with my Grandmother until 23.
toss a coin?
smallest penis first?
or humilite the small guy by big penises going first to stretch pussy open, so small penis does not have any friction?
I read of three guys in Court on rape charges, and one guy said he could not have done it because the thought of stirring another man's porridge was too revolting for him to contemplate. But the Judge did not believe him, and all three guys got a good stretch in the lockup.
if you have two many sex partners, it will be hard for you to be satisfied and get married. The guy you fell in love with might not be the best in bed, so you would have to have secret lovers while your husband was at work.
What the fuck is wrong with you people? Have our morals just disappeared? I have never seen so many fucked up people one one site before. Holy Shit...ur all SO disgusting.
If you look at the rules re age limits on this forum to the rules of the server owner network54...You will discover that the server owner allows younger ages.
From my standpoint I do not see why teens should be locked out of asking questions that are helpful for "Growth" & "Education".
Now and then some dick head wants to email someone underage. When I see that and its rare I point out that THEY just might find the law paying close attention.
Would not a girl get tired jiggling her hips with all these lovers, or does the enjoyment release extra energy like running an ultra-marathon? Not sure anyone has actually answered shy girl's question fully enough.
if you dated identical triplet boyfriends, then you would naturally get sex three times more often per week - but if you dated three guys with different bedside manners, you might get three types of sex performance and only one might be "up to scratch in satisfaction stakes".
A poor quality fuck might annoy and disappoint you for days afterwards and make you say, "never again!"
An average quality fuck won't give you a toe-curling orgasm.
A really nice fuck with someone you love, might be 100 times better than a football team of guys who are all virgins hoping to learn of each other, while stirring other guy's porridge.
So not possible to say three guys are better than one guy you love.
The issue here was not the multiple partners which are being used to make this girl feel
insecure. The real point is she doesn't feel ready for sex yet.
As for doing it with several guys, that's nothing new or surprising. HOW they are doing it seems quite juvenile I agree.
Definitely don't be pressured into multiple male partners at such a young and confused age.
Sex with several guys is something you need to decide upon when or if you reach a point of
sexual confidence where this represents some kind of fantasy fulfillment. Usually it's two men. Three guys, or a teen gang-bang is not recommended.
Multiple partners requires a maturity and self-awareness that takes years to develop - if ever. It's not for everyone either.
I never had three boys fuck me in one night. I once did it with two guys separately at the same party. Another time I slept with two roommates, one of whom was a boyfriend. Neither occasion was anything I felt pressure about at all, and I was old enough to know what I was doing.
As for alcohol, be careful as a younger girl when you are still defining your limits of how to use it without completely blacking out. You don't want to wake up after a blackout during which a gang of boys raped you while unconscious.
What the Hell is "Taste a Fuck" at your age?
If it involves simply letting several boys take turns with you because you are of
legal age, it sounds like nothing more than your girlfriends simply swapping guys
between each other.
No, in that situation 3 boys is not better than one at all. You are not at an age where
your are likely orgasmically evolved to enjoy a single boy completely without more experience
and practice.
I swapped partners with a girlfriend and enjoyed it but it wasn't as good as the best sex I've had with a boyfriend alone. A threesome with my girlfriend and another guy was more erotic, and sex with her and the man together was incredible. I never had three men together, although I have a fantasy about two men with me at once.
Find a nice, gentle boy you trust and explore your sexuality with him completely before you
get into several male partners.
Make sure you are reaady to have sex with anyone first. Don't let your first experience be with 3 boys because it probably will hurt and one will be enough.
Later on if you want to experiment with a couple of guys it's up to you.
Sex with love i soo much more fullfilling, Im sorry i had one nite stands but not one time during those experiences did i have the orgasms that i do with my lover. it really does make a difference when your in love..
you have had alot of very good and mature advice from experienced people listen to them. it is best to wait till you are in love and as for being worried about being left lonley. well from what i have learned guys dont want a girl who has been with everyone else. they may have sex with that girl but it isnt who they want for the mother of there children.