Have any of you guys, gone floppy during the act due to stressing? Also have any of you not been able to cum due to stress?
I find it really frustrating and I feel rather rejcected/inadaquate.
I've been seeing my lad for 3 months now and a few times he's gone floppy during sex or a sexual act, he's gone through so much recently we think it's coz he's really stressed.
Also sometimes he can't cum if he's stressed and he has wierd thingss about cuming, if it's in a certain situation/place/time he wont be able to cum.
Has anyone else had this prob?
I don't mind going through this, but he's living with his ex at the mo and I'm so worried he's screwing her.
I've asked him out right "are you fucking somewhere else" he said no, I couldn't do that, even if I did the sex would be so shit, it wont be anything like the sex we have, as it's amazing I can't honestly see why I have a problem getting it to stay up.
He's only in his 20's and smokes like 15-20 a day. Any ideas people?

Thats a lot of tobacco!!! Stress is a bitch. I have written before about faking a cum. Holding back until my GF has had a number of orgasms. When I decided its no longer going to happen I just fake it but it in no way means I did not have one great time making love.

Only time I could not get it up was with too much booze and once from pot much to strong.

Whatever you do - Do everything you can to be supportive and do not add to his stress. Yes I know easy to say and not easy to do.

So why is he living with his ex? When I decided to ask for a divorce I remained living in the same house and only once early on at her request had sex with her.

Worry about it staying up is not going to help keep it up. What you need to do is just tell him to get you off with his fingers and or Mouth and not be concerned about full intercourse - Making love has so many options. You might even tell him you only want to give to him with say oral or body kisses on occasion.

I don't make a big fuss over it, I just lay/sit there hugging him and talking about whats on his mind.
He said are you annoyed? I just smiled and said of course not, how can I be annoyed at him for something he obviously can't control?
We were getting into things today and it wasn't happening, so we just talked for a while and he rubbed my back and just kissed me all over.
It's back to how we were when we first met, which I think is sweet :)
Sex isn't a big thing for either of us, we're really lucky in the sense we have a similar sex drive. Just a shame he can't keep it up sometimes :/
He's living with his ex because they were together for 7 yeeeears and they split up er 3months ago (literally the day before I met him) but he said he hadn't loved her for 2 and 1/2 years it was purely the easy way to go and he didn't have sex with her for a year and things like that.
So in reality I suppose their relationship was over a long time before I came along.
I must admit if he slept with her, I would be heartbroken but not as bad as I would feel if it was a stranger... I'm just hoping if anything does go down liek that he'd tell me, we're pretty honest and open with each other so he knows not to fear me, although he might get a smack in the eye :p
Is there anything you'd recommend or anything I should say to him? plus what do you think on rebounds? He thinks far to highly of me to be a rebound relationship asfar as I know, I have asked him am I your rebound and he said no because he's never thought about anyone in this way. Chances of me being one?

Other then not dwelling on the issue because all that does is add to the stress -

Of course you could dig in a bit to find out a few things he is reluctant to discuss about things that turn him on that he might be too embarrassed to share. Try something on the order of - What fantasy have you had that you have not tried but might want too. Or a fantasy that you think about but may not want to really do. Just a way to dig into his inner mind for turn ons.

Do be sure to find out how his health is. Lots of information about how High Cholesterol can reduce blood flow and High blood pressure is known to cause similar problems.

Now to share something personal - I wish I could keep mine down for a longer period before it rises for action and thats because I find a lot of pleasure when its smaller - maybe concentrated nerves - Thats something I can do during self pleasure that I cannot do with a partner.

One thing you might try is to insert your fingers inside yourself while he is starting to get softer - would give you more of a feeling of feeling fuller and that may also for multiple reasons turn him on - We all are so different re what turns us on.

A guy who is still hanging out with his ex-missus is not yet free to give his heart to another. He will be emotionally scared for several years, and if he doesn't stop the smoking he could have a lot of erection problems by age 40 and viagra might not work. If you stick with him you might need to take lovers at some stage, hope he will let you.

I had an awful stress after I had lost my job. It influenced on me a lot. Not only that I was nervous and anxious. I couldn't even imagine that some ppl have sex in that world. It was so strange for me because I had real probs with money and lodging. I thought that when I find a job my sex drive would return, but it returned only in a year and only after the course of extagen. My impotence was a real stress for me too so I think it was a vicious circle.

GUILTY - Went back to ex gf and obviously couldn't get it up due to GUILT!
So another wonderful lesson from life.... Don't trust anyone but yourself and never allow someone to be your priority, whilst allowing yourself to be their option!!!
ggrr

You said he is living with his ex at the moment. Back when I asked for a divorce I decided to remain in the guest house until I found a place to move too. I did not have any sex with my soon to be ex after asking for the divorce. If he currently does not have an alternative re a place to live - does not mean he is still having sex with her.

Big chat tonight, I'm gonna see how it goes...
He's been playing me around because, I offer him plenty of opportunities to try with me. I want a relationship he doesn't quite want one, but says I'd be the one.
We've seen each other like a couple, stayed together like a couple basically a couple for 3 months, both of us said we couldn't sleep with another...
So I've given him chances of being with me and no signs of budging. I dont press the matter but now because im putting my defenses up and putting distance between us now he's blaming me for playing him around and has asked me to decide if we're still to see each other.
What a performance, it's like he doesn't want me but at the same time no one else can have me either...
*URGH*
BIG chat tonight, updates on whats going on :(

Out of the frying pan and into the fire.

That fits for both of you. It usually does not work out to end a relationship and get into a new one too soon.

Relationships on the rebound and with both of you in the same boat - I could make a pun out of a sinking ship.

Dude, exactly how we described it...
last night we kissed, hugged even though we tried our damndest not to... it's a vicious circle...
Anyhow, I've had a terrible situation thats arisen and more stress is added onto me, crap has happened yesterday which has made me upset.
SOOO I called him he offered me sympathy telling me he missed me and was thinking about me (yesterday morning when this news arrived) now by the end of the day I wanted to see him and he did say he would (P.s. my birthday evening) all this shit happened on MY BIRTHDAY of all days... Big flop, too busy and wants distance from me because im messing his head up, he wants to see me but knows it's wrong...
So now, we'll be at each others throats once again and the vicious circle of love and relationships will stick it's ugly head up.
So I think we're both giving up...
I'm gonna be a lesbian :)

when I mention kiss hug last night that means big chat night....
It's 01:06am in the uk so I'm screwed up on how to say today yesterday and the day before lol....

First post I read before yours was about those nasty ones.

We all have to face facts - Life ain't always easy. One one end you get some great Orgasm's and the others - ok one other end needs that daily wiping which face it - We all have to wipe but who really enjoys doing that?

So life has its moments and that daily need to take a dump should remind us all that we should expect life to be about shit now and then.

Anyway Happy Birthday LoL