Love, lust, attraction, passion, chemistry are not "things". These are just mind states from your thoughts being repeated like a mantra.

We don't fall in love with anyone in their presence. When they are absent, we constantly think about them thereby hypnotising ourselves to be in love with the other person. This is a fact which is noticed by few but experienced by all who fal in love.

So you start with a date. After you return home and lie in your bed thinking about your date. You start forming an image in your mind. Then you start thinking about the good qualities he/she has. You imagine them to be fun filled and thrilling. Next you feel cozy about that person and the final bait is when you say their name 2 or 3 times to yourself. You may feel elated and start walking about the house full of smiles. The process I have just described is a self hypnosis process. You have just now lulled yourself into a purely hypnotic state.

If I call her too often, missing her, wanting to hug and kiss her to such an extent that she becomes nervous, she may break up with yme because I am too much in her face. She needs her private time to be with friends and personal space.

Show her that you have a life of your own. You have to leave her personal time so she can day dream about you and enjoy the gift you have given her "of missing you". She does not need a guy who rings her too often.

If each date is quality time, she will hypnotise herself to the point where she is wanting to be with you more often, and if you play a bit hard to get, she will want you more and more because she has the perception that she is missing out - and maybe another girl will grab you while she is not around.

Funny thing about humans is that things seem more valuable if their is a shortage, so a girl will want a guy much more if lots of other girls want him too.

Some girls love a challenge and if you are a little mysterious, a girl may want to get to the bottom of who you really are, thereby spending more time with you to try and find the real you. Her curiosity can make her think about you more often, and b4 she realises it she may be half way to being head over heels with this guy who is hard to catch and able to pick and choose who he goes out on dates with. He seems a valuable prize to catch and so much more valuable than a guy who is "Mr nice guy" who will do anything and everything and spend money to get a kiss.

Jerks get lots of sex coz they stir up a girl's emotions whilst nice guys are "like your brother" with everything too predictable and less fun.

Now girls, tell me your thoughts - am I wrong????

I suppose it could have that effect, normally if a girl is getting heartbroken it's generally self hypnosis of a depressing kind.
I think the whole hard to get routine is an utter pain in the backside... Funnily enough I fell in "love" with one of the safe kinds and it's the longest relationship I've had, but I don't truely believe I loved him...
Now someone who I've spent a short period of time with who is random.. I could fall head over heels pretty rapidly.
It depends how the womens personality is too, don't forget this whole "bad boy" also works for "bad girls" too....

Been there and done that.

Made a few mistrakes going head over heels. Fond memories and its just great I mostly remember the good times instead of what caused the failure in those relationships.

Learned to get to know the person much better before diving in too soon. Saved me from breaking my neck on a number of occasions.

"self hupnosis of a depressing kind" like a snowball rolling down a mountain and getting bigger, perhaps a mantra of repeating to make the problem get bigger and bigger. That is when you need to ring up someone else and go and have fun on the town. While you are having fun, you can't feel depressed.

I guess we hypnotise ourselves to believe we are not as good as other people, or don't deserve something we would really like, or we will never be able to manage without a b/f or g/f we should have shunted out of our life months ago. We hold on because we have nothing better at this moment - but unless we let go of what we don't want, we can't look around for something better - we need to create a space so new love can move into that space.

If a guy really digs a girl after a couple of dates, and tells her, she will often drop him as he is too easy to catch. "Hard to get" is definitely a pain in the ass, but that is the thing that makes someone have higher social value and like winning a lottery if you can get him/her to wed you.

If a guy confesses his love too soon, the girl says to herself, "he does not know anything about me yet, we have just met, so he must be desperate to get married, and I don't know whether he has habits that would annoy me if I knew about them".

A confident man "grows" a relationship, and if she likes him she will not hurry to get a ring on her finger. There is no hurry if you enjoy being with someone, marriage is a big step so you need to see each other in lots of different moods before hand.

"Is he a little shit when he cannot get his own way? Can he say sorry and mean it? Did he bash up his ex or just get out of prison?" It takes time to find out these things.