My friend lost her virginity to her bf with large penis and said that hurt her really bad and have a lot of stretching and tearing feeling down there. She cried when he enter her. She told me that he bf size is about her 3 fingers wide. I started to worry my first time sex as my bf is bigger than that. She ask me to plan in more margin of stretching and tearing pain since he is so big. I would like to look for advise from somebody lost her virginity to a big size and share her feeling.

First I need to tell you that I am just about text book standard in size.

Hymens vary in thickness. One girl I was with - it took me three different occasions to open the Hymen up. Another was almost pain free with just a few drops of blood.

I have many gal friends who have shared what it was like for them the first time. Not one said it was a major issue. I think it could become a major issue if you focus so much on this one event, it adds problems you do not need re fear.

Of course if you really wanted too you could do some of that basic "opening up" yourself with a toy - including one of many homemade options - Carrots - Cucumber etc.

What really counts in a caring partner who will go as slow as necessary and hold off until next time and as I said even a third day to complete a full penetration.

Expecting pain will prevent you from getting wet during foreplay - If you are not sufficiently lubricated then it will be even more uncomfortable. I suspect a few gals have even opened themselves up with their own fingers - however none of my gal friends have told me that. Bike accidents and tree climbing events Yes -

The first time for real full intercourse is usually not all the great anyway - Experience will make it truly wonderful if you have a wonderful partner. In the mean time get some self service warm ups with your own fingers or more.

Really it all depends on your own anatomy. They say that usually girls who masturbate are more likely to stretch their hymen a bit and therefore don't tear as much. I personally can just tell you that if your guy is big just make sure he cares enough to take his time with you. It will hurt but not as bad as everyone says as long as you don't dwell on the pain the quicker you can enjoy the feeling. Don't take me wrong the first time is never like you expect (it will hurt but its something you're gonna have to deal with someday) even if you plan on it being all romantic it isn't like the movies. So just make sure you're ready emotionally to take that step thats the only thing I think you should worry about cause you can't take that moment back.