I have always felt confident in my breasts and vagina until latly. I have been dating a man for about a year or so and we have been having sex for about 9 months. I always thought that he was pleased with my girl parts. I dont know how we even got on the subject but he told me that his ex's vagina was tight and pink like a peach and mine was big, loose, wrinkled and dark in color. Is it normal for my vagina to look like that? I have not had kids so that isnt a factor. I love my boyfriend very much, but I need to know if there is anything I can do. Please help. Ive been feeling insecure.
Your Boyfriend probably has been with only a few women. The only good news out of this is - he must not look at porn because 30 mins on the net would show anyone that: Blonds and Redheads have pink skin and generally pink parts. However if they have external Labia those may be a darker color that ranges from browns to gray to purples and even deep purples. Brunets usually have dark outside skin.
If YOU spend some time in the several sections of this forum you will find 1000 posts on this topic, so you are not alone. That is there are other women who discover that their external Labia does not match the partners perceived view of what parts should look like.
For me and lots of men who have add comments to this forum, I love all there is to love down there so something extra is just more to love.
Some relationship problems do not have simple solutions. A trip to a nude resort/beach might educate him. Porn has problems because of air brush like filters that often add an over all color to a girls body.
There are sites that do not do this. Education is about all you can hope for in my opinion.
As to tightness I say BS. I have been in 34 to 39 relationships depending on definitions. Women who have never had children to women who have had many. Based on how many fingers fit easily or what I feel when inside and my penis is on the average size - Vaginas mostly feel the same to me.
So spend some time in the Sex and Relationships forum and even re-post this question there because this section of the forum is not very active. I may copy and paste some of my reply there or show this link. Its a common topic around here.
It sounds to me like your BF is being rude at least. I would say passive aggressive. Why would he EVER want to say something that would undermine your confidence as his lover??! Seems like he wants a little drama- to get you thinking the way you are, and thinking about his ex, so that he feels more significant somehow. Maybe he is insecure about his own appearance and was trying to get your feedback on his penis.
i'd keep an eye on this behavior and watch that he doesn't slowly take a toll on your self-esteem. BOO HISS on him!
Thank you for your imput. I guess im not sure where to go from here. He knows that I think he and his penis are attractive. I make sure to remind him of that all the time. For a confidince booster. In the begining of the relationship, he used to make alot of comments about his penis being crooked. I havent heard about that in months. So I thought that his confidence had been charged.
Welcome, I'm glad to see a new face, so to speak. If yr BF had said that to my wife here responce would have been, "If you don't like looks, you don't have to use it AND if your dick was as big as my last bf's I wouldn't feel loose to you. And that's being easy on him. He has terminal case of Hoof & mouth disease. It's always bad form to talk about past lovers. Follow Mindy's advise and keep an eye out for more of that. AND quit telling him how great his cock is. Let him worry.
L&K Gem,Jim
Tell him you want proof! ( just joking)
Dont believe 'ex's vagina was tight and pink like a peach and mine was big, loose, wrinkled and dark in color'
All vaginas are dark outside and pink inside.
Dont worry, tell him he is wonderful inside you he'll be happy
I think your partner need more tact.
Tell him not to compare you with his EX.
If he liked his EX's girl parts, why did he leave her?
He may leave you and describe your girl parts to another woman!
I think his somments 'his ex's vagina was tight and pink like a peach and mine was big, loose, wrinkled and dark in color' in not good!
No one else has seen your girl parts to give you a second opinion, which is unnecessary!
Your vagina is a perfectly normal and beautiful thing. Don't let ANYONE make you feel otherwise!
If a guy negatively compares you to an ex, dump him. If he doesn't think you're good enough as you are, then he can find someone else. If he wants to criticise your vagina, then don't give him any more access to it.
It's that simple. You don't deserve that kind of treatment.
Women all differ, and that's what makes them more sexy to men who have experience and understand the beauty of each individual.
I know exactly what your boyfriend is talking about, but I don't agree that your beauty is any
less than his ex's.
Sure some women have small lips and are very pink inside, and others are more expressive and interesting. The difference is not always related to childbirth or age either.
Consider it from another perspective. Guys have penises of all different sizes, colors, and shapes. Wouldn't you agree that if you are really into guy, you find his penis sexy accordingly?
There is no "perfect" vagina just as there is no "perfect" penis.