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November 27 2001 at 8:01 PM
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Response to Question - submissive responsibilities

 

Was responsible when my husband and I broke up? Perhaps the question is moot because he and I were not Dom/sub, or perhaps it is automatically him since he claimed so often I am not Dominant.

I think a D/s relationship is just like any other relationship - sometimes a relationship ends due to just one or another partner, sometimes it is mutual, sometimes one person is dissatisfied, doesn't communicate, and the other person reacts to that.

But reactions can be controlled, and you can't say "she started it" in an adult relationship. You can't say "he cheated on me first."

One of the first things I require of any submissive I meet who seriously wants a relationship with me in a D/s sense is that they learn to "own their own feelings" and take responsibility for their actions.

If everyone did that, there wouldn't be any concern about whose fault a relationship ending is...but that is just my opinion.

~R

 
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  1. I completely agree... - SnowMaster on Nov 28
    1. In my experience... - Robyn ~The Arctic Bitch~ on Nov 28
      1. excellent (n/m) - SnowMaster on Nov 29
      2. Communication and honesty... - Lord Aneubis on Nov 29
      3. OR... - TK's kitten on Dec 4
        1. sugar sweet and bitter honey - Robyn ~The Arctic Bitch~ on Dec 6
          1. Sweet Honey, only... *g - TK's kitten on Dec 10
     
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