How many of you practice one form of deception or another in regards to your BDSM relationships?
well M/most W/who know me here KNOW that i am married. i do not hide this fact nor am i ashamed of this fact. i love my Husband, and if a cyber Top/Dom/me is interested in me...my Husband is a part of me.
Does your Top/Dom/me/Master/Mistress/sub/slave/bottom know that you are married?
Well i don't have O/one but if i did T/hey would know
Does your significant other know that you have online relationships but not what kind?
He knows i talk online...often will wander in and read a few posts...i think the only thing that bothers Him is the sudden surge of Dom's that speak of taking me away from Him...(i really don't want to be taken away!) ~shrugs~ *guessing this is a testosterone thing*
Do they know you have relationships (of any kind) but not that you have met the person or plan on meeting them, or that you are "in love"??
i think the relationships i have are more F/friendship related rather than romantically related *winks at snowy*...i am in love with my Husband, i may love and "care" for O/others and what happens to T/them but my heart is His ~FOREVER~
How does deception affect the matter of consensuality in a BDSM relationship?
Deception greatly affects this!!! If bits and pieces of the story are left out...true consensuality does not exist in the relationship!
If one of two in a D/s relationship is married, and the spouse is unaware, does their lack of knowledge make any difference?
Oh i have such a huge major problem here *preparing to be flamed* but i think that the marriage of two people is a lifetime bond that they made....for better for worse. i can understand relationship where O/one P/person desires BDSM and the O/other remains nilla BUT i don't think it is okay to just go out and find a P/partner and start playing w/out Y/your S/spouses consent...the marriage came first in my eyes and should be everlasting. And in a healthy, LOVING, relationship, i am sure rules etc can be set OR exploration can be done TOGETHER!!!
i don't see how any could find satisfaction exploring this deep part of themselves without the one that they love most!!!! my Hubby may not be comfortable in all situations Domming me in public, but He takes me to all parties and allows other Dom/mes to play with me as He watches. There are so many things he wants to learn about what i like, and He is learning and growing WITH me. i just don't see myself as being able to participate at the levels that i do without Him there ~shrugs~
~okay shusshin' on this one cuz i could go on for days!!!
Can a person uninvolved in a scene affect consensuality in this way?
i think a person involved in this way is holding back and hiding. it will affect all that they are until they are comfortable being in the scene with all the people who are close and care about them ~ss~
i hope my answers make sense and don't offend anyone. i do admit to strong opinions on things...and this is no exception...
~whip~
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