Llet's just knock this down to the D/s level only without any reference to outside relationships...
Deception between the Ttwo within D/s only undermines the bond being developed/maintained/strengthened. No matter if there is deception outside of the D/s, there should be none within it - a D/s relationship cannot survive with internal deception. Why? Because D/s is founded in trust. Deception would crack trust thereby causing hesitation with consent which, in turn, would break up the foundation the contract was built upon, and, if love was involved, it would shatter whatever was left.
"What a tangled web Wwe weave, when Wwe first practice to deceive..." or something like that... grin
kit >"<~
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