*sneaking a smile to Robyn as i post my thoughts on this one....*
What works for my husband and I, are requests. Well actually, I do the requesting. I pick a quiet time....cuddled up to him, and explain what it is I would like more of...less of...or sometimes just to state where I think we are. He always listens, doesn't always comment then and there, but I know he pays close attention to what I say at those times.
If he wants something, he tells me. He tells me that he is going to do something, or that he expects me to do something. If it is a big change, something that pushes limits, or that I seem concerned about, he gives me several days before he acts on it. That allows me time to think things over, and respond if I need to. With eight years of tuning, this is what works for us.
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