Sometimes I totally see where polarization occurs around me. Sometimes, I don't. I have a fairly strong personality (those of you who know me, stop laughing at the understatement. It's not funny!) and I tend to be very controlling who, me? {snicker}, which means that when I want something done, I frequently do it myself, which means that I end up taking on an awful lot that I could pass on to others. One of the things that appeals to me about a submissive is KNOWING that I can teach/train/tell them how I want it done, and being able to trust that that is the way it will be done.
When this happens though, I've run into many that read it as a form of submission, that I do all of these things, particularly since I try my hardest to be polite, ask people to do things not tell them, etc. And I also tend to do things rather than ask, simply because it's faster to do it than explain it...which means I'm the one who gets drinks, opens doors, stuff like that for friends. (Particularly new friends. if I know ya fairly well, get your own d**n drink!)
However, this is in personal/social situations, normally that this occurs. And despite this, I have also had people tell me that my dominant personality comes out VERY clearly, from the same behavior. {shrugs}
But when I meet someone who is less self assured of themself, who seems to need help, who doesn't have it all figured out (cocky attitude for a 23 year old to have, but I am what I am), then my more Dominant nature shows up. I tend to tell them what to do, instead of ask. I take control, I make plans, I give lots and lots and LOTS of unwanted advice. I find it hard to hold my tongue when I see them doing stuff that I see is contributing to their unhappiness.
And then work is another story.
So I don't know if I really polarize or not...but I don't think that I do as much as some others do.
~R
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