Velvet Voices: Untitled

This is in regards to the post originally authored by Miss Steele entitled Wheres the sex?

Reading this article brought some things to mind.

Sexuality is a natural thing. Whether one believes in God or in another form of religion or not,is not the issue but whatever creator one believes in, who created all of us and in that creation, instilled in us the ability to enjoy sexual stimulation.

I believe that sex was instilled in us as pleasurable for the main reason of reproduction. Of course that doesnt mean that im saying that sex without reproduction is a bad thing, but i do think that was the reason for it.

The abuse of anything, including sex, is not good for anyone. As in everything, moderation is the key.

Sex without an emotional attachment is just getting off and serves no purpose but to relieve tension in the body.

Sex with emotional ties is a wonderful thing. It promotes closeness with the individuals involved and helps to cement the relationship.

In a BDSM relationship, sex is a big part of it, not a main part and most definitly not the only reason one should be in such a relationship. In BDSM, the aspect of control, the taking and giving of control, IS the foundation. Without power exchange, BDSM would just be kinky sex.

In BDSM, sex is a large part of it. And why is that?

Sex is one of the most intimate part of ones being. We cover our genitals, and although we all know what they look like, they are still private things in our life that most people do not see. When someone takes control of another, they dont just take control of the smaller parts of ones life, because if they did, there really wouldnt be much of an issue of control. In order for a person to have control over another, the intimate and secretive parts of a person have got to be opened up to the person taking control.

While sex is not the only intimate part of a person, it is one of the biggest. Also a persons emotions, their feelings and their daily walks through life are a big part as well.

Sex is not the end all, be all of our existence. BDSM is NOT about kinky sex although it incorporates kinky sex.

Sex is a part of every human being whether we are nilla, or into BDSM, into religion or an athiest. It is part of our makeup.

But it is not the only part of us thats important.

Please remember that we are multifaceted individuals that need more than just kinky sex to make us truly happy.

lil ol meow kat