Just like everyone else. And please be honest with yourself and everyone. You have difficulties accepting anything I say simply because I'm on positive terms with Gerard, and you hate him with a passion. So this isn't really about John & I at all, mister-look-in-the-mirror. It's petty and childish junior-high clique behavior, not behavior fitting a mature adult Christian.
John & I are working through our differences in our way; and it is working, slowly. Why you feel the need to be involved or in the middle is nothing but an ego problem that you have.
Because you seem to fail to comprehend, there are communications off-the-forums that have occurred and are continuing.