I apologize for my harsh tactics, but neither of us were really listening to each other. Please understand that it wasn't personal, it's just an effective "attention getter" that clears the air.
I have no interest in getting between and/or involved in the relationship of any 2 people. Anywhere... Ever... It's takes all that I am just to keep myself ok with others. I understand that my comment about his ex-wife not being a hateful person might have stepped on some sensitive territory, and as such not been received as it was intended. That's easy to acknowledge, correct, and we can simply avoid that subject in the future.
I would like to reconcile with John, and I am working on it. He is currently not interested, though, but I haven't given up on him,
Again... I apologize for casting doubt on your service. That was not my intent.