You've got to get into a "rythm"

with the source ...

If the source is your husband's income, then the source needs to be stimulated to WANT what you do too! Once the two are agreed, they work together to achieve that goal. They make plans, do extra stuff etc. to get their common goal achieved.

I really think that's the key to getting things done. Too often, there's a total disconnect between partners on what they want. Sometimes one will finally GET a wish fulfilled but ... it's soured by the knowledge that it means nothing to the other partner.

-Vince