SomehowApril 29 2012 at 9:07 PM
Vince (Login MoxiFox)
Response to Re: And ...
That doesn't seem to relate to what I was talking about though? ...
Or ... HOW does it relate, do you think?
Tim said [That's why I push the "BE REAL" theme on people at times to get down into what really matters in each persons life.]
What did you pick up from what I said?
Here's a test for real listening ...
You repeat back -in your OWN WORDS (to reveal your own perception)- what the other person has just said to you.
Ex.> "What I hear you saying is that ...."
Ex.> "So what you're saying is ....?"
Ex.> "Are you telling me such and such?"
Ex.> "I hear you. And here's what I think about what you just said."
You offer feedback to the person talking to you ... to demonstrate (to both of you) ... that this is a real conversation and not a competition of who can make the most dramatic presentation.
Too much of "conversation" is mostly competition between people to "prove" who is more interesting, more funny, smarter, more sensational or more dramatic .... and no real communication actually takes place.