maybe

Maybe we have different definitions of the church, or different ideas about the purpose of the church.

No, I did not miss your point "conveniently". That's not my style. I read what you wrote and took it as though that was what you meant: that feeding the hungry is not doing good, and that people who do so are actually evil and only doing so out of duty rather than out of love. That is what you wrote. And yes, it sounded judgmental and arrogant. Perhaps it is not what you meant.

The only assumption I've made about your outer life is that you don't know what it's like to really experience physical hunger, or you would not be so dismissive of the importance of that ministry. Other than that, I know very little about you or your life, other than what you have posted here.

Do you go to church, or are you involved in a church in any way? I became disillusioned with church, with things I was being taught that I couldn't agree with - and the church I was in at the time was a borderline cult. After that, I did not attend for years, other than occasional visits. Then about 3 1/2 years ago, I found a church home - the things that were taught and practiced felt right to me, and did not hurt my conscience as other churches had. I attended regularly and became a member.

I think that the church has many, many purposes and missions:

Worship
Encouragement
Fellowship
Teaching/study
Discipleship
Communion and other sacraments
Prayer
Service to each other, to the community, to the world

I do believe, as you said, God transforms hearts - I believe that he uses all of those things to accomplish that transformation.