8-DJ (Login JVH) Sufi Posted Jan 14, 2011 12:14 AM
You do what you are, and get what you give - when you do what you always did, you will get what you always got.
For instance, if we find that we dislike someone, we may decide that (s)he doesn't like us (in effect responding to social norms which dictate that 'people should all like each other and get along').
By deciding that this person doesn't like us, we can justify our decision not to like him/her, thereby setting ourselves up for a self-fulfilling prophecy because most people end up disliking the people who dislike them, even if they didn't start out that way.
It's a mechanism of a defensive nature by which someone attributes thoughts, feelings, and ideas which are perceived as undesirable by and in self, to another.
So, when we listen to what people say, that is, if we note the adjectives they use to describe others; we will begin to see they aren't telling us about the others, they are telling us about themselves.
_________________________________ Where your attention is, there you are What your attention is on, you'll become
Tag: psychological projection
-it's not what you know that matters, knowledge becomes irrelevant when not applied, it's what you do with knowledge; what you can show true using it that does - truth is demonstrably fact and fact is demonstrably true - everything else ... mere opinion-