The best civilian flight sim IMO is Microsoft Flight Simulator 2004, though this is due to be updated later this year around christmas time. Other people swear by another sim called X-Plane. I like FS2004 cause it is prettier

and it is easy to get additional aircraft for it because there is a large community for this game. If you want combat, there is a game called "Lock On: Modern Air Combat" or LOMAC for short. It has things like the F-15, Mig-29, A-10 and some other aircraft. This should be pretty cheap now and I believe you can get it in a package that also includes two other WW2 combat sims called IL/2 or something.
