Drastic measures

Hi
When people hear about someone being suicidal, I think they tend to question the authenticity of the situation.
We went to a funeral recently. A friend of ours took his own life after years of struggling with depression, and prior attempts on his own life. At the funeral I was surprised to hear more than one person mention how selfish he was... you know, cause he left behind a young family who needed him.
As we learned from his widow(whom we are close to) he didn't have a choice. He felt tormented daily. He was stricken with extreme sadness. He had no perception that there was any valid reason to believe, there may be a possible treatment for his condition. In fact, he truly felt like a burden to his wife and a bad example to his children. She believes this somehow allowed him(in part) to justify such drastic measures.

The point I'm trying to make is, he BELIEVED it!

As I read your post I wondered about your wife's pending surgery and initially thought that it was drastic measures. After reading about her suicidal tendencies, I will not sit here and judge you as to the appropriatness of your actions. I have never delt with suicide in my family but, I do now know that it is serious stuff.

Later
Steve