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need help
October 22 2003 at 6:44 PM
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My girlfriend is suffering from pmdd. I say my girlfriend, but in reality we have decided to take some space from each other until she can get her emotions under control. For a long time I was not educated about pmdd, and looking back I can see where I made a lot of mistakes. It was not my decision to break up, but we still remain friends and we both agree that we still love each other very much. I do hope that we will be able to come back together in the near future. Though I have read as much information as I can get my hands on, she is just now starting to learn about the disorder. She,(like many others I'm finding out)tried a few different drugs for a short time and didn't like the side effects. I am learning as much as I can so that I can be available to help and support her as much as possible, and not make the same mistakes that I thought were being "helpful" the first time around. I can honestly say that I have never seen a more special, loving relationship during the two "good weeks", and a worse relationship during the two "bad weeks". I don't want to lose her, and I am willing to be there through the best and worst. Especially now that I have a better understanding of what is happenng. She doesn't have a computer so she will be using mine to research the disorder and I hope she will participate in this support group. She still thinks she is the only one that is going through this. Any words of advice, encouragment, or support, to either of us, will be greatly appreciated.

Thanks

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Tee
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No score for this post February 24 2004, 6:22 AM

Dear Need Help,

I myself along with others suffer from this disorder and my husband still doesn't understand what is going on sometimes. The best advice I can give you is to be as pleasant as you can be to her and I know it will be hard especially when she biting your head off but trust me she will appreciate your patience and understanding during this time. As far as she is concerned try to be as patient as you can with everything even though I know it is very very hard, he will be there for you even though it doesn't seem to look like it. A strong relationship will endure a lifetime of downfalls.

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Anthea
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Re: need help
No score for this post February 24 2004, 8:16 AM

I answered a previous post of yours, you can see it here:
http://www.network54.com/Hide/Forum/thread?forumid=241962&messageid=1075601401&lp=1076954600

I might have some answers for you, and both you and your girlfriend are welcome to e-mail me if you have any specific questions. I have combated my PMDD and have been completely symptom free for over 2 years now. The treatment method I followed is outlined in an essay on my web page (see link PMS & PMDD Information). You might find the information useful.

All the best,
Anthea

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jeff
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stay strong
No score for this post March 8 2004, 8:28 PM

I am in fear of losing my fiance because of how I react to this horrible condition. She was recently diagnosed with pmdd. It is my nature to want to be next to her and "fix" the problem. I was only throwing gas on the fire. I am just learning to back off and let her ask if she needs something. It is not a pleasant thought of having to live 2 weeks a month walking on eggshells and feeling totally rejected. But as bad is it is for us to deal with imagine what they are forced to live with. My fiance wants me away so she doesn't say or do something she doesn't mean or will regret. It's a brutal condition and unfortunately, one that we can do nothing about except give space and try to understand.


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