I have been researching labia reduction surgery because I’m extremely self-conscious of my large labia. I’ve felt this way as long as I can remember. I have researched numerous physicians, visiting websites and speaking with their offices, yet I find myself not completely comfortable with the information I've received. I would like to know about patient experiences, what doctor was chosen and why? Are you happy with the results? Would you recommend this physician to others? What was your post-op healing experience like? Any surprises along the way? Did you have local or general anesthesia? I have talked with Dr. Matlock, Dr. Gary Alter and Dr. Pamela Loftus to name a few. Is anyone willing to share their personal experience with these doctors or others?
It's a really nice and uplifting message to say "you are beautiful ..., you are special and your large labia is beautiful." However, although unspoken by many "sensitive men," the truth is most men prefer small "tucked in" labias. Why? One reason is that men are programmed (not by culture but by nature/genes) to be attracted to symetry and all thing symetrical. It's all about the left brain, folks. John Stossel (ABC) once had a special on this. I suppose that the small "tucked in" vagina appears more symetrical, while the largia labia appears asymetrical and perhaps even confusing. Still, to be too critical of large labias would be to criticize the one that created them, "GOD," for those who are religiously inclined.
I don't advise you to do any surgery to alter your pussy style.I am with really big labias and my clitoris is huge too and I found that many men like me because of that.I am active in sex and all the men I fucked told me how beautiful were my large labias and how sexy was my big clit.
So enjoy your big labias and don't cut them off..............they are sign of pussy beauty,believe me.
I am a hetro man, and have been with quite a few women. I love vaginas, and I love labias more. I love to lick my women, all over their genitals and my favourite is to gently suckle on the labias, one at a time or both at the same time.
When I "get down" on a woman, the most unsatisfying thing is to find a very small or no labia at all...! My best partners are the ones with labias which I can suckle. I have never come across a pair which is to big for me, in fact my wife has a nice fleshy set (thank gor for that!) yet her labia are not exactly the same size and I wish the smaller one is bigger... They are beautiful and I can't get enough of them. The women with small labias don't know what they are missing...
If a man says hurtful things or gets turned off by your "large labia", then he is not good enough for you.
Have confidence that your labia is beautiful and is a unique part of you. In fact, if I were to have the chance of "going down" on you, I bet I will fall in love with your nether lips... Just like my wife, I think your labia is very sensitive to the touch and can be a source of much pleasure if your partner knows how to make them work...
Reduction by surgery? Are you kidding? Perish the thought and don't do it!
Your response did make me feel better. I have been looking into having my labia reduced. I watch alot of porn and look at the woman's vagina's and most of them are all pretty and petite. I feel VERY self conscience of it!!!! I was sitting one time with a hetro guy friend of mine and he was talkin about this girl he was fuckin at the time and he reffered to them as beef cutains!!!! I about died. I am debating it. I just feel like I would be so much more attractive and feeling free. ?
I would just like to preface this reply with a little known fact: In Japan, they call long labia "Winged Butterfly". This is because when the lips are spread it resembles the wings of a beautiful butterly. It is considered a sexual delicacy that not everyone is born with. Okay, now for my reply. THINK about this: You're sitting with a scumbag who has the nerve to talk about "some girl he was fucking that had beef curtains?!!?" First of all, I hope that you wouldn't consider screwing a guy like this. A decent guy would NEVER blab to anyone his sexual conquests and make it seem like the girl was just a piece of meat. Sure, some guys talk about how they "get some", but "beef curtains?" The guy has obvious self esteem issues himself. Why does he feel the need to put down a girl who just had sex with him? Seems like maybe HE wasn't enough for her and now he's gotta make himself feel better by putting her down. Sounds like your buddy is the one with the problem. I had an ex-boyfriend who was also turned off by large labia. (mine!) I have since moved on to a wonderful man. When he first tried to go down on me I was REALLY nervous because of the lip (no pun intended *wink*) my exboyfriend gave me about my labia size. My new boyfriend told me not to worry, he would love whatever they looked like. He was right! Now he says his favorite thing to do is go down on me, to suckle on my "butterly wings". Find a man who calls them that, and you've got yerself a potential hubby.
But for God's sake, do NOT mutilate your body because some brain cell-challenged monkey that thinks with his dick refers to a woman's beautiful gift as a piece of meat.
Hope this helps!~!
Sorry for the lengthy reply, but I just wanted to share!
-Pixie
I just have to let you know how perfect your respone was written. I agree with you completely, the dude was an ass and she should embrace and enjoy her full-figured lips, there are a lot worse physical problems and deformities than large labia!! I have a few, one very rare one which I posted on a different labia reduction surgery comment area on here (The Big Vagina). It's close to this response site. The rare problem I'm referring to is in the photo gallery of The Big Vagina, (labia surgery section), it's the picture where the woman's inner lip is torn. Mine is too, except it's a hole about a centimeter away from tearing further and looking exactly like the one featured in the photo. Only other difference between hers and mine is that hers was damaged and mine appeared out of nowhere, it freaked me out so bad I accused my man of doing it accidentally. Doctors don't know what it is or how it happened and neither do I! Sorry I wrote so much, hope you don't mind. I just strongly agree with your opinion on labia reduction!
Ok I also have a large labia and I dont like it. My husband has never had a problem and he likes it. I have not only heard of beef curtain but how about bubble gum pussy? I am very offended by these names and wish people would just grow up.
what you said was true to an extent, but i beleive there is nothing wrong with making yourself look
better. if a smaller and more attractive vagina makes her more comfortable then i say go for it. but do it for yourself and not for a man or (woman).
How do you make your wife's work? I'm curious now! I've never had a man make mine feel good besides sucking. Mostly they ignore all the outer parts and go for the inside.
i had vaginal surgery about a year ago,i have never been sorry i had it. it's not about what other people think, what they think is great might not be what u want. u have to decide for yourself. i had huge labia, they were long and flappy and i just could not take it, i went in for surgery and it hurt for about 2 weeks, but now it's great, i finally have a neat pussy, nothing long and dangling hanging out. i did this for myself not for anyone else and i feel great, i know everyone on this site will tell u not to do it, but remember u have to live with it, and everyone on this site likes huge labia, not everyone feels that way, loving long labia is a fetish, and not many people share it, i wish u luck, no matter what u decide, just remember u have to live with your body, don't let anyone else decide for u
Can you tell more about the recovery time and cost of surgery please. I am really concerned about how long it will be before I'm back on my feet. Also, was it laser surgery or "under the knife".
i did it too. 2 days ago, and i went partying last nite. the pain is mininal. however, i had no choice, i had one labia approx, 1 inch longer than the other, it was embarrsing to me, 2nd day post op, my gyn did it and i feel great.
I've been interested in this surgery for as long as I can remember. I visited Dr. Loftus in Boca Roton, Fl but i want to make sure i pick the right doctor to do the job. any suggestions?
Wow! I think that is so brave! I don't mean to be rude.. but how far did they protude from your body - I have heard people say it is uncompfortable to run etc... I don't know what the right thing to do is. Pixie and you both have good view points. ????
i am an east indian with long labia minora. i started feeling self-conscious when i watched porn. i also asked a couple of boyfriends what they thought and they reluctantly admitted mine were larger than they had seen before, but that it didnt affect the sex. also, one man said he liked them because it massaged his penis more during intercours. i probably wont have the surgery because, as my recent ex put it, if you love someone, you truly love their "naughty bits" no matter what! according to him, about 20% of the girls he screwed had a "full-blown rose" and it was fine with him. to a real man, genitals shouldnt matter at all. i admit i am stil self conscious and have sex only in the dark...but maybe if i read enought positive things it will sink in that there is nothing wrong with it. it is not a deformity..it is a perfectly normal variation!
i am east indian too and have had the EXACT same experience as you. i also asked men if my labia were larger and they reluctantly admitted they were, but that they didn't care..and my ex also said about 20% of his former partners had this. still..i am self conscious and can't shake it. i dont shower with men and have sex in the dark. i don't want to be one of those women who have plastic surgery..i want to be happy with myself. but i am not. i have to say, though, that the sites www.sexylabia.com and www.large-labia-productions.com have helped me some.
well thank you so much i have never worried about whether i had big labia i saw the chicks in porn had small ones. but i got onto those sites and they told me what i wanted to know. more importantly if there are those many girls out there then it must be normal
hi. i am seventeen and i have a big libia. It is really emabrassing and i have been embarassed about it since i was young. I am healthily sexually active, but am too embarassed about being open infront of my boyfriend.He had always gone down on his ex but i wouldn't let him on me because of my embarssing clit. It makes me sad, because i think about how his ex porbably had a sexy petite clit. I want to be able to be open with him and be naked infront of him with out worrying how i look down there. Should i get surgery when I'm older???...it's deeply effecting my sex life
Also i don't know if i should talk to him about it, but even thinking aboout bringing it up sends shivers down my spine. I don't want to bring up the embarassing topic, but i really want a guy to go down on me. We have been going out for a little over a year and haev done everything, but i just cant stand him ever looking at em down there...i dont know what to do.
please tell!!!!!!!!!! i want to know every thing. the price, where did u get it done, how old u have to be and how long it took. i want it done. am sick of being uncomfortable about myself it feels uncomfortable too. i envy u . please write back asap. xxxxxxxxx
I read somewhere that the doctors remove part of the labia in the middle of the labia instead of at the end. This is a good thing, but if something goes wrong, you could suffer nurve damage. I personally do not think it is worth it. I have one really long labia and one really short one. I wish the short one was longer-- I actually wish I had your labia. My one long one feels so good when my husband goes down on me and I know that if I the other one was longer, I would have double-pleasure. So please think about this very carefully. I wish I had your labia!!
I also have one longer ( an inch or more) and I wish one was shorter or longer so they match, I don't care if both are long or short, I care if they're even, but my man loves "her" deformities and all. Believe me, I got a lot of crotch ones and am extremely self conscious of them, but he's also extremely supportive of me too. I wonder if mine could be sensitive in a pleasurable way like yours are, I've never had him mess with them before. Also, as I've listed elsewhere on this site, you don't wanna get an inexperienced surgeon or OB who will butcher your crotch in appearance or nerve endings instead of making it appear sexier. I'm glad you don't want the surgery! We should love ourselves the way our parents and God made us, I admit I am very depressed over my physical appearance and hate leaving my home and I'm only 23 yrs, but hell, what can you do? People can't fix all their insecurities and physical problems. It would be nice though, but I'm content like you are, even though I have bitched a little about them! I do agree with you and thats my true point.
I understand your need for the reduction. I have the same problem and no matter how many people tell you they're beautiful, you feel how you feel.
The bottom line: people equate large labias with lots of "mileage". Obviously this is a false statement. I've known plenty of girls with lots of "mileage" and little labias. Regardless of whether or not you fit into that category, you don't want your partner to look at you and think you look "worn out". I take this personally because I was molested as a child and I thought my labias were like that because I was "worn out". So the first time my boyfriend's hands started wandering, I got scared; not because it was my first time at third base, but because I was scared he would think I'd been around.
If no one ever saw my vagina again, I would still be self conscious. If labiaplasty will make you FEEL better, go for it. I think I might.
You are considering surgery to cut down on the size of your labia, have you heard that women in Africa, Middle east and elsewhere actually pull their labia to make them larger. For me there can be nothing as sexy as a large Labia.
In response to the close-minded person who remarked that the suggestion to consider the standards of other cultures is ANNOYING. Maybe you should get over yourself and actually attempt to understand another person's viewpoint that is not your own.
You respond like an immature teen. She was only stating a fact about what other cultures do with their labias, not saying you have to think they look good. It wasn't annoying, she was just trying to enlighten them and make the self conscious women feel better!
Don't do it, I had it done 6 months ago and the consequences have been devastating. I would not like to distress you by sharing my experience of this barbaric operation. I have been left disfigured and sexually dysfunctional by this surgery, it is a dangerous high risk procedure. I strongly feel that plastic surgery has it's place and it is not on women's vaginas. Please don't do it!
miss x
I think it is very courageous of you to admit,that these surgical procedures do have severe secondary effects. Wonder how many women there are out there who are sharing your experiences, though they haven't said anything about it yet. I think they are quite a few.
You're so right! I agree 100% As I've wrote on this and the other related sites, you don't wanna get an OB or surgeon who's inexperience will end up butchering your vagina instead of making it look sexier! Plus, experts advise against it because of postoperation complications. They damaged your nerve endings and made it appear deformed didn't they? I'm sorry, I had an incompetent medical staff for my son's birth and they screwed me up physically and sexually for the rest of my life and I'm still in my early twenties. It's been almost 4 years and my vagina still hurts like hell when I'm not sexually active, let alone how bad when I am!!! Everything that could have went wrong did and they dealt w/it so poorly that I honestly could have sued them and won. They almost caused my death in 3 different ways, plus I'm so scarred my vagina isn't elastic at all like it's supposed to be because of massive lacerations (tearing) and scar tissue buildup. These women shouldn't risk the surgery because of the risk of nerve damage (like what happened to me). It's not worth it if they get damaged during the procedure and sex not feel good or feel at all or even be painful! Instead of self consious, it'd be self pity over losing your sensation. Sorry I wrote so much, I just agree with you about the dangers of labia reduction!!!!!
You're so right! I agree 100% As I've wrote on this and the other related sites, you don't wanna get an OB or surgeon who's inexperience will end up butchering your vagina instead of making it look sexier! Plus, experts advise against it because of postoperation complications. They damaged your nerve endings and made it appear deformed didn't they? I'm sorry, I had an incompetent medical staff for my son's birth and they screwed me up physically and sexually for the rest of my life and I'm still in my early twenties. It's been almost 4 years and my vagina still hurts like hell when I'm not sexually active, let alone how bad when I am!!! Everything that could have went wrong did and they dealt w/it so poorly that I honestly could have sued them and won. They almost caused my death in 3 different ways, plus I'm so scarred my vagina isn't elastic at all like it's supposed to be because of massive lacerations (tearing) and scar tissue buildup. These women shouldn't risk the surgery because of the risk of nerve damage (like what happened to me). It's not worth it if they get damaged during the procedure and sex not feel good or feel at all or even be painful! Instead of self consious, it'd be self pity over losing your sensation. Sorry I wrote so much, I just agree with you about the dangers of labia reduction!!!!!
I havent had sex yet and im not too old either (16) i have a boyfriend and i am soo scared that if he went down on me and saw that i have huge labias he would like dump me or something, or think i had a gross pussy. personally i think they are disgusting and their is no doubt that i want to reduce them, becuase i think it looks like ugly...for the longest time i thought i was abnormal for having this! and now that i have found other people with the same thing it feels really good to know im not alone! but if i wanted to reduce them how old you you have to be and how much money would it cost?! thank you so much if you respond to this..i need allt he help i can get! xoxo
Girl, you are way too young to be thinking about surgery! So I'm not even going to answer your question. Here's the thing. Most heterosexual women don't think vaginas (or more specifically, vulvas) are particularly attractive. But honey let me tell you, men are positively obsessed with them! They don't feel the same way about vaginas as we do, and if you were homosexual, you would probably love vaginas, too. Also, if you'll read some of the posts here in the Advice section under "Vulva Appearance" you will see that most men actually LOVE large labias. They don't see what you see. To them the vagina posesses a power, mystique and allure that is irresistable to them. So please don't worry so much. As you get older and have a few boyfriends you will learn how much they actually love your vagina! Trust me. It's a part of you, dear. Embrace it.
Hey, I'm 16 too..and I have extremely elongated labias as well. I am extremely selfconcious of them, and sometimes its uncomfortable to wear certain clothing, or it shows through, and I hate wearing bikini bottoms because you can see a huge lump. I've been thinking about the surgery myself..I am going to first talk to my doctor and see what she says about my problem. Maybe if we swapped e-mails we can help eachother out? I'm glad to know I am not the only one because I have been worried about it for years...anyway, that's my story...
its only a problem if you choose them to be otherwise it is sexy, womanley and wonderful part of the female anatomy.
we are all very self concious at the age of 16. i was. i hope you learn to love your body, i mean give it a chance. it has been with you for 16 years already and what harm has it really done?! check out sexylabia.com
i am only 17 i have the same problem, i have had a boyfriend and felt the same way u do but, seriously dont let it bother you to much becoz it will end up takeing over- u should tell him that u dont like the way u are down there but u dont have 2 go into detail or anything. i have never had a bad coment from a man..... and i doubt u will iver! i am seriously considering labia reduction but dont do it for anyone but urself. if u go to ur doctor and exsplain ur situation and u feel about it they will refer u 2 a hospital u can have it done on the NHS free!! however there could be such a long waiting list oh and dont be shy 2 talk 2 ur doctor they have seene so many womans bodys and mens all shapes and sizes, they are used to it you neva know they might even have the same problem. think about it ur only young dont rush in2 anything. take care.
Wow. I can't believe you are even considering this. I LOVE my large lips. Nothing gets me off easier than rubbing them together... it is SUCH a blessing. In fact, I'd post my lips here but I can't figure out how. Maybe the big V could tell me how to post. I'm so proud of my vagina.
hey i am 15 and eversince i have become sexually active i have become very conscious of my labias.
i was looking across websites and i noticed this its really comforting to now other people have this and not everyone thinks this is ugly.
esecially after my first went round my school telling everyone about my labias.
i was also considering surgery when i was old enough but i have totally reconsiderd after reading these posts.
so thankyou very much
xxxx
I had labia revision surgery done about a month ago by my gyn. My insurance paid for it! :) I couldn't be happier!! He did a wonderful job! The first few days were the worst. I couldn't really walk all too well w/ my legs closed. It's all better now and healed and i LOVE it! I was totally insecure about it, but now i can rub my finger between my legs and not feel a big lump there! It's great! :D
Wow, please tell me how u got your insurance to pay for it!!! Also where did u have it done. My gyn. said she doesn't do it. I'm trying to find one in my area that does labia reduction surgery, but so far i'm out of luck. Is this something done by a gyn. that's trained specifically for this type of surgery, or can I really find one around me that can do it? Please help!
I have a GREAT gyn. I love him to pieces! I told him that it bothered me a lot during sex. That I always have move them out of the way, and it's just very discomforting. So it was a medical reason and my insurance covered it. :D
I thought all gyns would know how to do it, but maybe not. I'm sure you can find one who would. :0
I would really like to find a gynecologist where i live that does this surgery. It would be a great help to me if the big V could post some gynecologists that do this procedure. I live in Michigan and I have no idea who to turn to. I would not like to travel out of state for the surgery, there's got to be a gynecologist around here somewhere........please help!!!!!!!!
Can you give me more information about your surgery. What gyno did you go too and how long before you were able to be sexually active? Thank you so much
Hey, I would like to know what insurance you have that paid for your surgery... it sounds great because I am considering having the labia reduction but gotta save money for it.
I live in Florida... let me know what insurance please.
Thanks, bye.
My NHS Dr and I discussed the nerve saving technique (i too had investigated fully on the web sites and was going to travel to the US for the op) and he said he cut straight across bottom of labia, ok I said if thats the way you know how then fine. After operation just out of theatre - he said to me I did it the other way -- cut out a V shape instead- it was the first time he had done it that way and he'd used me as a guinea pig without my consent. He has taken too much out of one side and not enough out of the other.. One side split open and I had to be re stitched ..It still hasnt healed properly and has scar tissue on it ,,It feels weired and hurts.. he has offered to repair it but Ive totally lost confidence .. and am subsequently taking advice from a solicitor.
Make sure you have a surgeon you feel confident with discuss the technique used ask if theyve ever done it before .... Make sure that you give the impression that you wont be fucked with before the operation and hopefully they wont try and take liberties..
I think that's terrible what happened to you. I am currently looking for good doctors for this procedure under the NHS. Or even reliable british private surgeons.
One thing i find INCREDIBLY sad about this, is that young women look to pornography in order to compare with their own vaginas and then come away feeling bad about themselves. When in reality alot of porn stars themselves have actualy had labia reduction so it's not even a realistic portrayal. I think there should be better media/education for women, becuase lets face it, those sex education pics never really portrayed what vaginas looked like because everyones is so different and personal.
I just have a question for those who have had labia reduction: Do you develop any scar tissue??
hey i am from the UK too, and have been thinking about getting vaginal surgery sometime in the future.i hate my labia minora because they´re actually bigger than the outer lips and hang down. also, i have been thinking about trying for yome modelling work and i don´t think a 'bulge' in your bikini would look good. i would def. consider travelling to the states to have labiplasty, mainly because in the UK it´s a relatively recent surgical development and i would prefer to have an experienced surgeon (preferably female). If i had cosmetic surgery, i would never do it through the NHS, they are worse than private surgeons (in my opinion). That is absolutely SHOCKING and terrible that you were used as a guinea pig. I´m so sorry.
In regards to men, an ex-boyf said when he first saw me, he thought i had been with a lot of men simply because i had large lips! i don´t know where this logic comes from (he was my fourth), but i didn´t like being seen as a ho! he said as well that he loved my shape the way i was because he loved me, but that smaller lips were "more asthecially pleasing". my current boyf says he also prefers smaller lips, but he doesn´t think i should have surgery, i should only do it if i really want to and if it makes me happy, but he doesn´t care either way. going on what he says (ie. his sexual experiences), i guess around 1/5 - 1/4 of women have large vaginal lips, so it doesn´t mean that it´s freakish to have them, and perfectly normal. as a teen i always wondered if i was the only person like this, but comfortingly i read in a girls magazine that it´s very common and "normal". however, even before hearing men´s opinions i felt awkward and self-sonscious about my lips, and i think if i had surgery it would make me much more sexually confident. if you feel sexy, then you have better sex! and i can´t really love my lips.
there seem to be lots of guys on this site who love big labia! i have never met one! i can honestly say i´ve never heard a man say he appreciates, "loves" large labia. in my experience they´re just something they tolerate simply because they like the woman, but not an entity they view positively, and given the choice, would always op for a 'tidy pussy'. regarding oral sex, i´m seem to be missing out on something here!! a grand total of four men have gone down on me, and not one has sucked my labia properly! is this good or sth? to be honest i don´t have much feeling in mine!
re: crude terminology, i have heard "meat curtains" and "fanny flaps" (fanny means pussy in the UK)
Please please please do not do this to yourself. Darling I am a 36 year old women with very large/dangling labia and like you was extremely self conscious with sex, new partners etc. I have been married 11 yrs and can I tell you there's nothing more in this world (ok maybe apart from our children) that my husband loves more than sucking and licking and playing with my labia and quite frankly I looooove masturbating. Also I straddle his face and let my large swollen excited labia brush against his entire face as he tries to poke out his tongue for a taste it's awsome. I recently found a fantastic website www.sexylabia.com please have a look at it it is not hard core porn but more educational, humerous and has very beautiful, tasteful free photos and lots of mail from men about how much they love women with large labias !!!! Quite frankly my dear I feel sorry for women with no labia or small labia because they don't know what they're missing out on - only their partners do!!!!!
Please please please do not do this to yourself. Darling I am a 36 year old women with very large/dangling labia and like you was extremely self conscious with sex, new partners etc. I have been married 11 yrs and can I tell you there's nothing more in this world (ok maybe apart from our children) that my husband loves more than sucking and licking and playing with my labia and quite frankly I looooove masturbating. Also I straddle his face and let my large swollen excited labia brush against his entire face as he tries to poke out his tongue for a taste it's awsome. I recently found a fantastic website www.sexylabia.com please have a look at it it is not hard core porn but more educational, humerous and has very beautiful, tasteful free photos and lots of mail from men about how much they love women with large labias !!!! Quite frankly my dear I feel sorry for women with no labia or small labia because they don't know what they're missing out on - only their partners do!!!!!
Please please please do not do this to yourself. Darling I am a 36 year old women with very large/dangling labia and like you was extremely self conscious with sex, new partners etc. I have been married 11 yrs and can I tell you there's nothing more in this world (ok maybe apart from our children) that my husband loves more than sucking and licking and playing with my labia and quite frankly I looooove masturbating. Also I straddle his face and let my large swollen excited labia brush against his entire face as he tries to poke out his tongue for a taste it's awsome. I recently found a fantastic website www.sexylabia.com please have a look at it it is not hard core porn but more educational, humerous and has very beautiful, tasteful free photos and lots of mail from men about how much they love women with large labias !!!! Quite frankly my dear I feel sorry for women with no labia or small labia because they don't know what they're missing out on - only their partners do!!!!!
I'm 16, worried and scared about the prospect of any type of relationship as it may lead to a guy seeing my labia.
I've looked into having labia reduction, and im glad to say that i have recently recieved a letter telling me that i have been put on the list for the procedure, which should take place soon.
I respect all the opinions in this forum but still believe that at the end of that day it is an individual's choice!
I´m from Germany and I was on the way to find some information about Labia surgery, because I always thought that it´s unnormal to have inner labias which are bigger than the outter labias.
I was very self-conscious and wanted to have a surgery as soon as possible.
Now I had a look at www.sexylabia.com and now I know that it is normal and even nice to have bigger labias!
Thank you a lot for your reference, I hope that a lot of people have the chance to have a look at this beautiful homepage to see all the nice vulvas!
pixie is right on....listen to her!!!!!any guy as stupid as monkey boy(name say's it all),should never be listened too!!!I'm holistic practioner and a guy..idiots like this give ALL men a bad rap.your fine !!!he's not.fine a good guy like pixie did and have a enjoyable life....good luck..p.s. no surgery............
a good life with a guy like that would be wonderful. I think everything that is inside my mind is better than anything real. I think it is a problem. I would prefer to dream and sleep for the rest of my life if I could.
I've ALWAYS thought that bigger is better. A lot of women think they should have smaller inner labia because certain of the less hardcore magazines like playboy airbrush them smaller. If you look on playboys site, this isn't because it's gross. They themselves state that it's because it's "too erotic" to show that, and they are more art than porn. A lot of guys like big.
I just had the labia reduction surgery in Canada 2 weeks ago (Aug. 2nd). I wish I had someone to talk to about this before having it done. It is painful, no doubt. I am still recovering. My stitches are still there but mostly gone. I still have some swelling but not as bad as it was. Yes you swell alot and it is hard to sit for quite a few days afterwards. At first I didn't have any sexaul feelings what so ever but now I am getting back to normal. I am still sensative, especially after going to the bathroom. You have to keep it really clean so you don't get infections, etc. I haven't been able to have sex but I am sure it won't be long, not that I can't wait. I do however, now that the pain is mellowed, feel this was a good idea. I was really embarassed before having it done to be naked around my boyfriend but now I am gaining more confidence as the healing process gets better. I am a bit concerned about somethings but again my healing time hasn't been all that long. I am really looking forward to having this all healed and see what kind of reaction I get from my current partner. He didnt' know what I was having done, nor does anyone else. I told everyone that I was having some "geny" surgery and everyone would pretty much leave it at that and not asked to many more questions. I wouldn't tell anyways.
Well I hope this helps in your decision. Here in British Columbia it is a free procedure. I have to admit I don't think I would have ever paid to have it done. It does hurt and the healing time takes time. But otherwise I am glad to feel normal.
Hi, I was just wondering if you could tell me how long your swelling lasts and if the appearance gets better as days go by.
I just had the surgery 5 days ago and needless to say my stiches are still there and I think I still have swelling, at least I hope so because if this is the end result, I am very sorry that I got it done. I am very sore in just one spot that looks kind of like a bubble appearance and a large stitch is right under it, that is what I think is bothering me everytime I walk or move a certain way, it rubs against my clothes and really hurts. If you still check this forum can you let me know a little about your recovery, I'd appreciate it. Thanks a lot!! Good Luck to You!!
m.s, I am feeling exactly the same as you. How are you going? Is the swelling going down? I'd really appreciate an update on how you are healing and progressing, I had my done 20th Sept so up to day 10. I have noticed bubble like lumps too and Im worried they won't go. One side is alot bigger and chunkier than the other and Im hoping its just swelling on one side and im so scared it will stay like that. That bigger side is still sore and the other side is perfect and not sore anymore. Im regretting getting it done at the moment, but also trying to tell myself to wait as I know it takes a few weeks to heal and for the swelling to go down. Hope all is going well for you.
It is now a little over two weeks since my surgery and I am still feeling some pain. I don't know if that is normal but I went to my regular Gyn and she said I look like I'm am healing fine with no infection. I went to her because I have been experiencing extreme itching and burning along with some pinching pain in certain spots. She tested me for a yeast infection and gave me Diflucan to take in the meantime, but it hasn't helped. I have a feeling it has to do with the surgery. The swelling has gone down a lot, not sure if its totally gone because I am still very sensitive down there. I just want this itching and pain to go away already. I am also concerned about the way it is healing, in some areas my labia feels hard to the touch, I am hoping this is temporary and will soften up with time. I hope you are doing better. Take care and feel free to respond!
Hi. I had labiaplasty a year ago. The doctor I went to never told me about what I later found out is referred to as the "itching phase" by post labiaplasty patients. White drainage and itching. I remember it begining on my third day post op and do not believe it stopped for a few weeks. It was not a continuous itch. I think my doctor told me to use neosporin plus which made the itch worse. I can't remember what other doctors were telling their patients to use(I found out after the fact that they were meds available for comfort), maybe hydrocortisone cream but ask your doctor if it is ok to use it. I think what helped me was cold compresses but I will try to remember for sure. Mine was also very hard but it seemed that when the sutures dissolved the hardness resolved. It sounds like what you are experiencing is typical for someone who is 2weeks post-op. It is way too early to see what your results will be like. Keep me posted.
Thank you very much for your response, leaky3. That makes me feel so much better. What you are describing sounds like what I am experiencing. I can't wait till the healing process is over!
Thanks again!!
In reply to your message, I too, am one month on from this surgery, and have quite a few concerns. The area is still tender and sore, which is probably too be expected after such an operation. However, I am very worried as to how it is going to look and feel finally, because at the moment I am not happy with the results. The right-hand side looks much bigger than the left and is still clearly visible when looking in a mirror - it also feels very swollen, especially when wearing underwear. I am hoping that this is because my surgeon did a different procedure on the right-hand side to the left which involved more stitches (which haven't dissolved yet), and that this is the reason for the way it is. I really hope so, because the way it is at the moment I can't see me ever being able to wear a pair of pants again. Please let me know what your experience is..
Just read your message posted beg of October. I have a few questions - wondering if you could help? I had Labiaplasty done in the UK a month ago tommerow and I have some concerns. Firstly, the right hand side seems much bigger than the left (and doesn't seem that reduced) and both sides are still quite tender,itchy and hard near to where the stitches are still in place. I'm finding it quite uncomfortable even to wear underwear. How long did it take for your stitches to dissolve and how long before you saw the final result? Also, are you happy with the outcome? I really am very worried that this is how it is now going to look and feel and that I have done the wrong thing by having this operation. Please tell me how your experience of recovery went. Thanks.
Hi Caz. Most of my sutures never dissolved. I still have some internal sutures. I went to my doctor about 3weeks post-op to have them removed. The swelling and discomfort decreased some and then a few days later I started having sharp pain on one side when I would sit. I saw my doctor again at about 6weeks post-op and he found some suture knots that he had not seen during my last visit. Up to this point I could not wear underwear or even sit. Putting on my socks was scary because I could feel pulling and I had already been told during my 3week visit that my incision had separated(my doctor did the wedge procedure). After my sutures were all gone everything started to improve but because my right side separated I will never have perfect results. They are uneven in a way I have never seen and I hope no one ever notices. My doctor was inexperienced with this procedure. If you still have sutures you probably do still have swelling. I don't think you can tell how you are going to look for about six weeks but I have been told that final results are not for nine months. Have you called your doctor to see if they can remove the sutures? Then a lot of the swelling might go down and you'll probably feel a lot better! Hope this helps! Also, I look a lot different now than I did 1month post-op.
Thanks for the post. Can I ask - when you finally got rid of your stitches, did things start to smooth out down there? At the moment, my right labia is still like a big lump at the top that can be felt when I wear underwear, never mind trousers or jeans! I never had this before surgery - but the size of my labia, made it virtually impossible for me to wear jeans and certain trousers.
One year on are you now able to wear trousers and jeans without problems? I'm worried that by the look of how it is at the moment, that the uneveness will mean that I am still going to have this problem - after having spent £3500 on this surgery!
Hi. I am doing alot better now than one year ago. My internal sutures never dissolved but after the external ones were removed it got a lot better. A lot of people say it takes longer on one side from what I have read. The swelling goes away after the sutures are gone. Hope this helps.
I was wondering if you had any experience of recurrent swelling post op - after the initial healing period? I am now three months post op and have experienced swelling of the whole labia (particularly towards the back) three times now. It is very uncomfortable and makes sitting down extremely difficult - and with Christmas a matter of days away, I am very depressed. I keep trying to pinpoint what may be the cause - once I think was through sexual intercourse and the other two times purely I think through being on my feet too much! I keep wondering how long this nightmare is going to continue for...Just when I think things are starting to look pretty neat down there something like this happens and starts my worrying all over again...Please tell me this will settle down soon..
Sorry you're having a hard time! I have no idea because I had problems after my surgery. I've heard people say that your not really healed for 9 months. I think everybody's different. Some underwear would irritate me alot and I would swell for I think about 6 months but it gradually decreases. Also, I ditched someone right before I had the surgery and still haven't dated anyone or had sex yet but I wonder what will happen when I do. Don't worry. It will go away! A year later it is a lot better. I have heard very few people say that their swelling was gone after 2 weeks(as I had been told it would). Hope your feeling better soon!
I am now 4 months post-op and still encountering problems. As said before I am experiencing periods of soreness and swelling in the area - even though my doctor is suprised to come across this and says I am the only one he has operated on that has had this problem. The soreness is both on the outside and inside of the vaginal wall near to or on the areas of incision. At times it is still very uncomfortable to wear underwear and pants and even to sit down. This is now driving me crazy - I really thought it would all have healed by now. I have even looked into whether or not it could be a vaginal infection rather than due to the surgery. Could you tell me if you experienced similar and at what point the discomfort and pain went away? Are you completely healed now?
Hi Caz. Sorry it took me so long to respond. I didn't find your post the last time I looked. I don't think you should be having pain this long after the surgery. I can not think of any reasons why you would. If you had an abscess or an infection I think you would've had a fever by now. I did still have occasional discomfort 4 months later and I rarely do now(15 months later). Sometimes my underwear and pants would be irritating but the pain was around my labia and I think the reason why is that the swelling would make my labia majora stay open and some underwear and pants would creep up there and really irritate me. I wonder if it's being caused by scar tissue. Is it decreasing? I am doing a lot better, still holey and bumpy but I decided that after a year of dealing with this that I did not want anything else done and that I needed to move on. I have read that it can take up to 1 and a half years for all of the internal sutures to dissolve. I wonder if that could be causing your pain? Also, a lot of people say that 9 months is the key time, meaning your not really healed until then. I don't know if I would go to another doctor yet if I were you though. I might try to wait and hopefully it will go away by itself. Let me know if you get anymore information or if anything else happens. If it gets worse I would definitely get a 2nd opinion.
l just read your messages and wanted to know, how are you and is anything change. Is it look good now ect. l have same problems, but l did my op. month ago and it doesnt look normal at all.
Thanks for your response. I am doing okay, but still having some complications. I went back to my regular GYN again today because I still have itching and now I have a sore with some bleeding. She thinks it is probably due to the surgery, but can't be sure because she is not familiar with the surgery. I started getting nervous, thinking I contracted some kind of STD from the surgery. She made me feel better by telling me I couldn't get it from that. I hope so because I never had a disease in my life and I don't feel like getting one now because of a surgery. I am really regretting this surgery. I am not sure if I should go back to the doctor who did the surgery cause I don't know if I trust him. Anyway, if anybody had some of the same experiences I would appreciate some feedback. Thanks!!
I am not trying to judge people or tell them what to do but I will say, make sure this is really what you want before you do it. You can't go back and change it once its done. A lot could go wrong. I wish I would have thought a little more about it. Good Luck to everyone.
Hello, I had surgery on two days ago in the UK. It is hurting like crazy and v difficult to sit down. I'm sure this is normal. Just want to wish whoever is in my shoes the best of luck. Am glad I've finally has it done but it doesn't help you getting nervous about possible complications and the recovery process...
I too had the operation done in the UK five weeks ago today. Just wondering how your're finding the whole experience? I still have my stitches in - although I think they are finally now beginning to dissolve.
I am hoping against hope that once they dissolve that things will improve down there - to be honest, I expected things to look alot flatter and smoother than they do by now. My left labia has been reduced quite a bit but still has a hard lump just above where the stitches are. However, it is my right labia that I am extremely concerned about. I'm really worried that the surgeon hasn't took enough off, as it still looks rather big at the top where all the stitches are. It is still visible when I stand infront of a mirror and feels like a small lump in my underwear (something I didn't have before the op).
I had a minor setback last weekend when I had a little bleeding from the right hand side and the whole area swelled up to twice the size it was before - this was very uncomfortable, and I don't think it is still back to how it was. I've not been able to wear underwear again for the past week! As you can imagine, I'm getting very depressed about the whole thing - not least because I'm confined to the house alot with two small children. I'm very worried that I have done the wrong thing with going ahead with this op. Please post back and let me know how things are for you.. Thanks.
I'm think i'm going to get the surgery done
i hear what all of you are saying but i think it's important for me to feel good when going to bed with somebody ive never had any nasty comments about my large labia (well not to my face anyway)but i never feel i fully let my self go sexually! Just one QUESTION how long was it before you could go bk to work i know a lot of you have said it's painful but is it the sort of thing where you stay in bed for a week or is it bearable and the sort of thing you can go back to work within a week and cope with! I myself have already had a breast reduction a year ago and found i was up and about the day after! suprisingly recoverd really kwickly
Where in BC did you have this procedure done? Is it free in the rest of the country too? Can you tell me more about how you went about getting this done? I've only heard of people having it done in the states, frankly I'm too embaressed to ask the doctor about it.
I think they are beautiful and you should think carefully before you have surgery, my other half has a large labia and is very self concsious about them as some men have always commented about her size, this now affects her self consciousness and our sex life, never be ashamed of what you have, be proud no matter what you look like, be confident as sex is about having fun and not worrying about being a designer vagina, penis or whatever! If the person you are with is not happy with you then they are the wrong person to be with, sorry if that sound blunt but get rid of them and enjoy yourself and your self life!!!
Sorry for the lenghty reply but you are what you are.
you girls thinking about having surgery are so silly!!!!!! your wasting your money!! it just shows your shallow! dont do it!!! EVERY SINGLE vagina is different!! and BEAUTIFUl!!!! WOMEN ARE BEAUTIFUl!!!!! love your vagina and enjoy having long labia,big clitoris,small labia,small clitoris or whatever the problem you have with it!!! xoxooxox
this is so amazing... i never even knew that there was a site like this, but i am so glad that there is one. I have really long labias. They hang out when I'm standing and I think they are so ugly! When I was younger I tucked them inside the outer lips because it was uncomfortable to walk sometimes, but then i think that was just stretching them so i stopped and got used to it. I still think that they're ugly and i've been wondering for years if i could get a reduction surgery because i'm uncomfortable with them. but what you all have said has helped a lot and i'd like to thank you all i haven't really talked to my current boyfriend about it, but i know he doesn't mind. it's not him that i care about though, it's what i think about myself.
Sorry to intrude on your discussion, I work for a magazine and we'd be really interested in doing a sensitively handled piece on labia reduction. Is there anybody out there who is in their twenties and has had a labia reduction operation and is willing to talk to us about it?
Please feel free to email me directly on lfrost@hf-uk.com
I'm fourteen, a virgin and deathly afraid. I'm so scared that when I have sex for the first time the guy will get turned off and revolted by my labia. I'm also afraid it'll hurt really bad. I want to get the surgery done, but I don't want to tell my mom or anything. How much is it? And where in BC can I get it done? Anyone have any comments or advice for me please reply. I hate the way they look naked, and with underwear on. It looks lumpy.
I had it done a little over two weeks ago and it still feels kinda painful and itchy. Not as much as that first week. I was on my couch practically the whole time. It was very uncomfortable and if I took too much medication I would get really sick and throw up every now and then. That part sucked. Every time I read about this women say that they had dissolvable stitches. I did not. I had my stitches taken out a week later and it was the worst pain I ever went through in my 24 years of life. It seemed as though my doctor thought it would go a lot smoother than it did. I cried and cried through the whole 45 minutes of stopping and starting. There were a lot of stitches and I can't belive I went through it all and am glad it's over. My vagaina felt tons better after they were out. I do have to say that I feel a bit hollowed out. Like I hardly have anything inside there anymore. My boyfriend said it looked normal. It may be something I need to get used to. I guess I don't know for sure if I'm glad I did it yet. I can still have a great orgasm, just tried that the other day for the first time and was relieved. Who knows about sex...won't be for awhile still. My insurance covered it for medical reasons, it would get pinched sometimes and somewhat irritated during certain sex positions. I do feel a lot trimmer. Like I got a circumcision (so my boyfriend says)
How long did it take for things to feel back to normal? I got the procedure 9 days ago and I feel itchy and uncomfortable. I agree with you... the internet and docs are full of crap... it hurt and it didn't take "2-3 days" to feel better. I had to take narcotics for a week to deal with it.
How long did it take for things to feel back to normal? I got the procedure 9 days ago and I feel itchy and uncomfortable. I agree with you... the internet and docs are full of crap... it hurt and it didn't take "2-3 days" to feel better. I had to take narcotics for a week to deal with it.
I got this surgery done 2-1/2 weeks ago and I ended up in the ER with an infection. I am pissed. This hurts more than the irritation from the labia itself. I do not recommend this procedure.
It's been 3 weeks and am experiencing quite the same now. It seems like I have been circumcised and "hollowed out" as you say.
My problem is that it seems like the doctor has cut too much - I can not even feel or grab my labia!
DID ANYONE experience the same?
Docs say that there is still swelling and labia will "appear" visible soon, but I doubt a lot!
Also, my clitoral hood was reduced and clitoris is not sensitive at all. I am very afraid that it will remain like this forever.
After 3 weeks I had sex with my husband, but the clit only hurts :( (vagina is ok).
Please share your experiences!
I see you had the labial reduction surgery a while ago now and you thought the doctor cut too much off. Are you happy with the way they look now and has it stopped hurting??
i have been wanting labia surgery for a while, and have just started to research. None of the posts I read here have answered the question of COST! CAN someone give me an approximate cost- please? Also, i saw that sometimes insurance will cover the cost (or partial coverage). WHAT are the criteria for the insurance company to pay? ex: painful labia, interfere with clothes. I understand that all vaginas are different and are supposed to be different. For me, though it is not just a cosmetic interest, it does interfere with my clothes and rubbing while i walk. It also seems to have gotten worse as i've aged. Can somone PLEASE address the issue of cost? I would also like some information of Doctor's who specialize in this type of surgery. I did see a small segment on "Dr 90210" but i do not remember the name of the surgeon. THANKS EVERYONE fro listening, and any help!
I am new to this forum and I am so glad that there is a place where people can write. It has helped so much over the past few weeks to read some of the posts and know that I am not alone. I will be 6 weeks post op on Monday and I am still walking like I just rode a horse. It is driving me crazy. I am trying to do everything right but who is to say what is right and what is wrong. Everytime I think it is ok, something else happens. My doctor is 3,000 miles away and my regular gyn is not familiar with the procedure. I have taken diflucan twice for a yeast infection and still i get white fluid and feel itchy. I get sharp pains in my clitoris which totally scares me. I should have just got the labia reduction. Has anyone else had pain in their clitoris from this? Also, my left labia in the past week has swelled up much larger than my right one. I am scared that I have done something wrong. I know they say that the symmetry will take 6-12 weeks but I am at a loss for words. It feels uncomfortable. I wear my husbands underwear because anything tight is unbearable, especially when I walk. I cannot walk down the street without someone (neighbors) asking what is wrong. I have hid my surgery from alot of my family and friends. The only people that know is my husband and my sister. It is torturous for me because I feel like I dont even want to be around anyone. I just don't want to keep explaining and lying to everyone. If anyone has any advice, I could really use it. Thank you in advance for your responses.
Hi Scaredval. How are you doing now-any better? I am surprised that your doctor gave you diflucan since white drainage and itching are so common after this surgery. I guess he wanted to be sure it was not a yeast infection since he couldn't see it to make sure it was not an infection. Better safe than sorry. A lot of people call it the itching phase. I think it's just our bodies normal reaction to dissolving sutures. I still had a lot of discomfort at 6 weeks post-op because my sutures were not dissolving. My surgeon tied humongous suture knots. They caused a lot of swelling. This resolved a lot after my external sutures were removed. To this day my internal sutures still have not dissolved. I had my surgery the end of October 2004. Are you already healed?
Thank you so much for responding. I want to say first off that I am sorry that you have had to deal with so much over the past year from this surgery. I have read so many of your past emails and I think it is great that you come on to help so many people. I dont know if it is fully healed yet. It is still a bit sore to the touch. I cannot imagine at this point wearing tight jeans or tight anything. I still have some swelling and alittle bruising on my clitoral hood, but I havent had the sharp pains in awhile which is good. I think the outer sutures have dissolved, but my left labia swelled up alot larger than the other, which makes me think there is still sutures somewhere. There are 2 bumps on my left labia that are tender. Could that be from the sutures and why it has swelled? How do I know if I still have the inner sutures?
Hi Scaredval. So glad to hear you are doing better. Just think-pretty soon this will all be over. I know I still have sutures because I can feel something cordlike even still. I had tender bumps, also. The biggest ones were on either side of my labia, in that crease between the labia minora and majora. I saw a doctor who squeezed mine and all this white stuff came out. I don't think you should squeeze yours though because you don't know what they are and you can cause an infection by squeezing, just like a zit. Most of mine were small. If the bumps aren't red or oozing anything I think I would just wait. I noticed that when I stopped squeezing for a week that they got smaller. Keep me posted about how your doing.
Hi Leaky3, I think I still have the inner sutures too because I also feel like I have something in there. I am very happy that I finally have my first follow up appointment next week. The doctor can tell me what is going on and if it looks like it is healing ok. I will keep you posted. All the best to you.
Hi - just read your post and wanted to respond to allay some of your fears. I had my operation done in the UK around five months ago, at the end of September. I just had the regular labiaplasty - as after having had two children I found things down there were too big and caused major irritation when wearing jeans, trousers and even underwear. Where you are at now and the worry and despair sounds very much like me even two to four months post-op which is what compelled me to respond. I know only too well the feelings of complete isolation and depression and the horrible way in that you have to pretend to all around you that nothing is wrong - when things couldn't be further from the truth. My heart goes out to you. Bear in mind however, it is still very soon since your operation and I personally found that recovery time takes far longer than the six week period prescribed by doctors. I, like you too, had great trouble wearing underwear for the first few months and trousers were a definite no-no. I am only now at five months post op just able to wear some trousers and cotton knickers to avoid aggravating the area. I have had complications - mainly swelling - particularly of the right labia - that my doctor is at a loss to explain, and I still have some soreness in the labia around the incision sites. Having said that, each time it has swollen up - the extent of the swelling each time is getting less and less - and I am hoping that this improvement will continue with time. I am due to see my doctor again (at my request - he usually signs patients off three months post-op) at the end of March. However, the few times it hasn't been swollen, it has actually looked pretty good down there. The right side is still slightly bigger than the left - my doctor said that to achieve perfect symmetery is very difficult and it is nothing major to notice. The most significant change is that I can no longer see anything hanging down when looking in the mirror (unless I look very, very closely) and it is alot neater. Let's hope this is what the final outcome will be - if not better. Let us know how you're getting on.
Caz, thank you so much for your response. I read it and cried because how you felt is exactly how I feel. Completely isolated and depressed. I finally went to my dr. last week. I was so excited to see him for the first time since my surgery. I went with a whole list of questions and concerns but when I got there, I asked him my first question about a bump on the side of my clitoral hood. He said so defensively that he didnt even touch that area. Things just went downhill from there. He spread my labia and I had alot of white discharge. He told me again that I have a yeast infection. I explained to him that I had a pap done from my gyn and she said I didnt have one and that I heard alot of women that have had this surgery get this because it is their bodies way of dealing with the surgery or sutures. He was so rude. He said "Well, if it's not a yeast infection, you have something down there." and then he told me to buy a bar of dove as if I have not cleaned it before with soap. I am so hurt. I went to him to alleviate my fears and instead he worsened them. I walked out of his office crying because I felt so ashamed. This is the reason why I went to him. To feel confident and comfortable with myself and he made me feel so scared. If I was the first girl that he had seen with this white stuff, I thought Oh my god, what is wrong with me. He went from someone I could go to and trust to someone I did not want to confide in. All the other questions went out the window. All I wanted was to get out of that office.
Now I have a new problem. I was cleaning in between my labia minora & majora with a Qtip and the next day it looked like I have a hole that has seperated. Even my husband does not know what to think of it. I am so so so scared. I feel like it is never going to heal. I guess to hear yours and leaky 3's messages, I feel hopeful that it may take awhile but eventually it will heal and I so look forward to that day because sometimes I just feel so emotionally exhausted. Again thank you both so much for responding. All the best to both of you.
Hi Scaredval. Sorry to hear you had such a bad experience with your doctor. Unfortunately, I had a bad experience with mine, also. I wonder where you live-maybe someone in your area can suggest another doctor. I get the impression that your doctor has not done this surgery many times. Don't feel like you're alone. You're really not. A lot of women have had the same experience as you. You can go to another doctor just for a second opinion. I would not go to an ordinary ob/gyn. I would go to someone who has performed a lot of these surgeries. And definitely don't say anything negative about your doctor to any other doctors. It will cost money, though. Another doctor won't perform any kind of surgery for about 6 months. If you had an infection I believe that your doctor would have detected it and given you antibiotics. Sorry it took me so long to respond to you. I haven't been able to access this site in weeks. I thought the site crashed but now I see people have been posting all along. I'm using msn so maybe the next time I can't find it I'll just try a different search engine. You might also want to try healthboards.com and lamas.beauty.com, also, although they are not as active as this site on this subject. Good luck. I hope you are feeling better as of this writing.
I live in New York. I have looked for other doctors in the area but I have come up with noone that I trust.
I did trust my dr. which is the one that you have gone to for revisions. I really think that he is a good PS and I fully trusted him. I did not expect him to act that way at my follow up. I dont know if he is overwhelmed with the amount of patients that he has or that I am a rare case but the fact that I trusted him so much scares me because now I dont know who to go to.
I read so much about him and I would not have gotten it done from anyone else. So now who do I go to for a second opinion when I originally got this done from the best probably in this field. If you have any ideas, I am open for anything because I am still so freaked out. How did you deal with the stress of thinking the worst and trying to accept yourself? I find myself wishing that I could go back but I know that is not possible. Thank you for being there. It does help, unfortunately, to know that I am not alone.
Hi Scaredval. There's a post on makemeheal.com that you would appreciate. It was just posted today. She had hers done by Dr. Alter last July and she still is not healed!
Are you better?
It seems that there are so many of us! But at this site, you're right, there is too little information for us.
I would suggest that you check out www.labiareductionforum.com
We are all there to support you!
Hi - only just read your post. So sorry to hear you are still having problems post surgery, which cannot be made any better by the complete unprofessionalism of your surgeon! Is there not any person in higher authority who you can lodge a complaint with - this type of response is NOT what you need.
Although I haven't had some of the things your'e experiencing, at the height of my problems it was very easy to sink into quite a bad depression, and I could honestly say if it was not for my kids and the fact that I had to look after them during the day, I would not have got out of bed in the morning.
My advice is to give your body time to heal - I know it's hard believe me, but even just a couple more months could make all the difference. The body does have amazing restorative power and even a couple of weeks from now you might be feeling different. If after then, there is no sign of improvement, I would think about seeking an alternative opinion if your own gyn. is so unresponsive.
I really hope things begin to look up for you - from experience I know that it will be all you are thinking of 24/7 at present. I just hope these posts give you some comfort - I know they did for me. Please let me know how you're getting along...
Thank you so much for your response. It truly does help to get advice or comfort from someone who has been through or is dealing with it. I am feeling alittle bit better. I think I was really sinking into a big depression and I knew that it was not going to help me in my healing, so I had to try to pull it together and put on a happy face. It is still very hard because I never know from one day to the next how it is going to be. Recently my left labia swelled up again, actually I think both this time swelled up. I freaked out at first but I remembered your story of how your labia swelled up three times and how you said that eventually everything will be ok. That night I took an epsom salt bath and by the next day the swelling started to go down. Thank god. It is definitely a roller coaster ride of emotions but I have to try to stay positive and think of what you said that the body has amazing restorative power. I am so happy that things are better for you, it definitely gives the rest of us hope that maybe not today or tomorrow but eventually I will be better and back to myself. Thanks again. Take care.
Ihad the op 4 weeks ago in the UK. Everything was going well untill I sat on a rowing machine and the right side swelled up and pulled some of the stiches. I am not too concerned with this as I have every faith that can be resolved. My insecurities lie in the size of the labia itself. They are not protuding AT ALL. How long does it take for them to go back to normal size? They are also very bobbly in appearance. Iam seeing my gyn this w/end for a check up. Can anyone reassure me in the meantime?
I have the same problem.
It seems like they're too small now.
I have posted many messages at www.labiareductionforum.com
Please join, it's better to talk there.
I have been looking into good surgeons and costs too. I think the best man for the job would be a surgeon by the name of Dr Gary J.Alter. He has featured on DR.90210. He has a web site and you can also contact him for prices at altermd@earthlink.net
He operates out of California and New York. www.altermd.com
Visit his site as he has before and after pictures of the operations.
He has writen books about the technique and is probably the most talented pick for the job.
I think if this is a discomfort to you, it would be covered by insurance.
I have a big ship and I'd like to dock it between your lips.. The longer the looser the better. I love a long stretched out Labia, it is very sexy. Be happy with what you have babe. Jungle Man
Hey Betty, I just think of them of nice little wings that hang down on either side of my gal's vagina. I think they are hot! Protecting the Vagina, I like that, however it sure doesn't protect it from my one eyed wonder worm. It always manages to find it's way in that moist crevice. Jungle Man
I had a labiaplasty almost 2 months ago and I have white dots on the inside of my labia that I have trouble removing while cleaning. Has anyone had a similar experience? How long should I be putting the vaseline on my labia for? I wonder if the white dots are coming from the vaseline.
It was when I was around 15 that I noticed I was different. I felt terribly self-concious and got quite upset and depressed about it. I've had a lovely boyfriend for 4 years now and he doesn't insult me in anyway at all but i still feel deeply unhappy. My vagina is almost as though i have male genetials- large vaginal lips which really put me down. Could somebody please give me a website which shows me before and after picture of surgery? Thanks, Delia.
hi ladies, i'm a gent, swm 30 years old. i'm also an artist who appreciates the female form in all its varied beauty. i took a look at the before and after pictures of the sites linked on this web page. firstly, i have to say that i think all of the before pictures are stunningly more beautiful and sexy than the after pictures. even if you think your labia are uneven or overly large, i can tell you as an artist that they are beautiful and have there own unique order and perfection. personally, i haven't seen a vagina yet that i don't find beautiful and sexy. i have a personal preference for larger or more elaborate labia, but that’s just my thing. what i would like to say is that out of the 6 women i've been with, 3 actually complained about how small there labia were and how uninteresting they thought their vaginas looked. believe it or not, these women actually envy you gals with the larger or more elaborate labia. whatever your situation, my suggestion is to view as many different photos of vaginas as you can before deciding on some sort of surgery. you may find your labia are more beautiful than you think...
I'm having a labiaplasty on the 3rd of july, and I have literally been waiting for this for 8 years (I'm 20). I appreciate that a lot of people on here are anti-surgery, but in my case the surgery isn't for asthetic reasons. I would appreciate any productive comments about this.
Is there a man in your life,, and what does he say,? If you belonged to me I would beg you not to have the labia reduced as I would love to suck tehm into my mouth and enjoy them. Think it over but to me an old ladies man they are an asset of beauty.
First the universe was empty, then the earth was made and humans were put on it. The intention was that there would be great diversity, and there was... but then somthing called "a marketing man" came along, he thought how can I sell more stuff to the masses and become richer, I know he thought if we can dupe the suckers into striving to become identical we wont have to have so many different line/ranges of stuff cos everyone will think, look talk and be the same... so in the area of the female genitals first the hair was natural, the this was unacceptabe and it was trimmed, then this was unacceptable and so it was removed, but this then threw up another "problem" wimen looked different, so once again presure was brought to bare and the women conformed and submitted thenselves to surgery, anything that showed was cut away. after a while this was geneticaly enginered into the feotus so that pubic hair never grew and the genitals were all identical tiny slits like 8 year old girls... even this however was not enough and so the clitoris was geneticaly engineered away... not long after this the human race died out because sex was now so sanitised that no one wanted to do it any more... for every person who loves somthing there is some one else who hate the same thing... diversity is the main reason for being alive if everything was the same there would be NO POINT ! women for heavens sake STOP IT... your being suckerd AGAIN and if cirtain clothes are uncomfortable choose your own style rather than slavishly folowing fashion, if you have big feet you dont get your feet reduced you wear larger shoes and draw the atention to your pretty face or good breasts or what ever.....
First the universe was empty, then the earth was made and humans were put on it. The intention was that there would be great diversity, and there was... but then somthing called "a marketing man" came along, he thought how can I sell more stuff to the masses and become richer, I know he thought if we can dupe the suckers into striving to become identical we wont have to have so many different line/ranges of stuff cos everyone will think, look talk and be the same... so in the area of the female genitals first the hair was natural, the this was unacceptabe and it was trimmed, then this was unacceptable and so it was removed, but this then threw up another "problem" wimen looked different, so once again presure was brought to bare and the women conformed and submitted thenselves to surgery, anything that showed was cut away. after a while this was geneticaly enginered into the feotus so that pubic hair never grew and the genitals were all identical tiny slits like 8 year old girls... even this however was not enough and so the clitoris was geneticaly engineered away... not long after this the human race died out because sex was now so sanitised that no one wanted to do it any more... for every person who loves somthing there is some one else who hate the same thing... diversity is the main reason for being alive if everything was the same there would be NO POINT ! women for heavens sake STOP IT... your being suckerd AGAIN and if cirtain clothes are uncomfortable choose your own style rather than slavishly folowing fashion, if you have big feet you dont get your feet reduced you wear larger shoes and draw the atention to your pretty face or good breasts or what ever.....
