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All sealed Up. please help

July 3 2006 at 11:40 AM
Aziza  (no login)

Dear Big Vagina Experts/Staff,
Dear all,

I am a somali female of 25 years. I was circumcised as a child.
An old man with many dirty razorblades cut off my clit and shut my vagina all up.
He sealed it and left just a small opening. We were 12 girls in total
and it was done in Somalia. I was 6. It was the worst experience of my life.
It still haunts me and even now as an adult, I feel incomplet and scarred for life.

I dont have a clitoris, nor any of the labias a normal woman should have.
Shouldnt that be every woman's God-gifted right?

I have a very small opening. Sex is very painful and i dont feel anything at all
when a man enters me, just pain. In fact i have never, ever come with penetration.
Is that normal? Also, since you know alot about vagians, is there a way i can come with
a penis inside of me, or do anything else to enjoy sex?

I have a small ingrown clitoris, or something that looks like that.
I often dream that it will grow. Ooh how i'd love that.
When i touch it, masturbate or so, i do come. I have only recenlty discovered this.
That was wonderful, but my orgasm is very short-lived-about 5-10 seconds. Is that normal?
Since my discoverey, i masturbate every morning and night. I just love it.
Also it is only now that i am seeing a normal vagina.
It is so different from mine, and all the other vaginas i have known.
but ooh so lovely, all those things hanging out...

Is it possible to grow a clitoirs, or any of my labias back?
Also have you had girls like me write you before with similar problems?
What did you advice them?

Thank you very much for all your help.
It would mean alot to me if you answered my mail with some tips.
Aziza

 
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Jungle Man
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Sad situation

July 3 2006, 6:13 PM 

Sista, you better scrape up some cash and head to the good old USA for some reconstructive plastic surgery on your vagina. The asshole that mutilated your privates should be locked up for life, better yet casterated then shot and pissed on. Why on earth would someone do that to a Wahine? That is just simply fucked up. Best of luck to ya sista. Aloha, J-man

 
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Maureen
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gosh...

July 4 2006, 4:06 AM 

Aziza,

oooh gosh
What a sad story.
I felt unwell when i read ur story.
Sis, i know many little girlz undergo
similar rites of passage in Africa.

I dont think a clitoris can grow.
But like jungleman said,
if u get some prof help,
they might be able to save something...of ur vagina

ooh my god, why would anyone do such a thang.


Thank you so much for sharing your story.
Maur.

 
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Jack
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why?

July 4 2006, 5:03 AM 

Can someone in Jesus' name explain to me why anyone would wanna do that
to a child? what does it signify?
Jesus Christ almighty!!
J

 
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candy
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all sewed up

July 20 2006, 11:04 AM 

this person who done this to you god has not forgotten. however this is something that only god can comfort. just except the fact that this is done and there is no way to undue the problem just pray that god will bless you with a man who will except you for what you have and not fault you for what someone sick has taken from you .. no fault of your's . however god still has someone in store for you there is still hope after all. at lease you still have life. that sicko did not take your life.god will send you a man that will please you in a way that you will never understand. your heart's desire will be filled. ask and it will be given.pray for god to send you a comforter. and he will. the lord jesus has favor in you girl. just because of what you've gone through. you are still perfect in his eyes. don't worry about what your vagina look like. keep in mind that's all you have to offer.someone will come along and love you as if you had everything. please turn your bible to the 37 psalm. whenever you began to worry about what you were left with.you could have been dead and gone. be blessed inspite of what you have you're no different from any other female

 
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candy
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why screw a child in the rear

July 21 2006, 9:37 AM 

please understand that this person is sick. and has allowed satin to take control over there live's. anyone who would moleste a child has lost hope. however god has not forgotten. the best is yet to come.don't worry yourself with the action's of people. it can realy become a verry deep worry that can also be harmful to your body.instead feel sorry for this person.i know it's not easy to turn our anger into sorrw. but if you put your trust in god .all thing's are possible if you belive.most child molaster's have also been victim's of the same. we live what we learn. it is indeed a sickness. that sometime's take forever to over come. god haven't forgotten them either. pray for whom ever.that they will over come.it is indeed a blessing to have the opportunity to be able to stop this person from continuing to spread this poison to another child. so many people are wondering why there are so many lesbian's gay guy's and last but not lease.bi sexual's. the reason is . they never had the oppotunit to fix the problem.

 
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Aziza
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Thank you all !!

August 11 2006, 4:05 PM 

Dear Candy,
Dear all,

Thank you all for your comforting advices. I will cherish them.

I have also mailed the owner of this site in her forum for advice and she gave me some good informative tips.

Some of you didnt understand why this FGM ritual of cutting little girls genitals is practised in Africa and also mnay other places in the world. I can speak for the community i come from. Somalia is a strict patriarchal society. Men have dominated all aspects of women's lives, including their sexual movements and enjoyment. FGM (female genital mutilation) begun in Eygpt during the time of the Pharohs. According to many researchers interested in the topic, men ordered women's vaginas to be sealed esp to black slave-women because they enjoyed sex better when the vagina was tight. They had absolutely no consideration for the feelings of the women, they were seen to have none.

The practise soon spread to neighbouring countries. In Somalia mothers do it to their daughters thinking they are doing a good thing for her, they dont consider the medical consequences. The social pressure is too much. Men will not marry an uncut women. They can even divorce her if they discover she is not sealed and doesnt bleed. So barbaric. It is because of men that the practise still goes on.

I will never marry a Somali man. I hate them.

I still havent given up the hope that my vagina can and will one day be fixed.
With God's will, it will.

Aziza


 
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Judith
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Re: Thank you all !!

October 17 2008, 11:58 AM 

Dear Aziza,

I just read your second post and would like to share one more story. I was girlfriend to a somalian man. he was the most wonderfull man I have ever met. He died of lung cancer unfortunary.

He was genuinely sorry to what happens to the somalian women. He cried about it. In the bed the only thing he was intrested in was my enjoyment.

I knew a man from sudan who - against his own family - took his daughter to Europe. Against the will of his wife to prevent her from beeing mulitalated.

Not everyone is the same. In every people there are bad and good people but most - both men and women - are very ignorant.

Due to my boyfriend I got to know several Somalian women. And I do feel their pain almost like my own. My heart goes to you, flies over the ocean, wherever you are.

Greetingth Judith

 
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JC

February 5 2007, 1:37 PM 

JC has nothing to do with this. It's the moslem bastards that carry out such cruelty on little girls.

 
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Judith
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Re: JC

October 17 2008, 11:37 AM 

There is a doctor in France, Pierre Foldès. He can helps women in your case. He has developed an operation that makes it easier for you to reach this rest of your clitoris. Also sometimes the clitoris was not removed but covered by the rest of the lavias and shut.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Pierre_Foldes

He from my knowledge even operates women for free.

I think that you already experienced orgasms in your life is very good news. And an orgasm never takes lobger then what you described.

Good luck in your life, I hope you find Happiness.

 
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Anonymous
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Re: All sealed Up. please help

July 29 2009, 1:59 PM 

Yes an orgasm for 5 to 10 seconds is normal. Maybe You should try anal penetration while you rub your clitorus. The anus has alot of good feeling nerves but be sure to use lube and be relaxed or it'll hurt. You can get a good orgasm with anal and light rubbing of the clitorius.

 
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