As I'm getting closer to delivery I'm starting to think about the birth experience I'd ideally like and who I want attending me at birth.
First, some background, I've given birth easily before, several times and the most recent born when I was 43. She was in a posterior position (face up) and although it was an extremely painful birth, I pushed her out without much of a problem and no meds. The nurses later told me most women can't stand the pain and often have C sections. They were surprised that my old uterus didn't get fatiqued!
Well here I am 6 years later and would really like a different experience. No IV line, no constant monitoring of baby while I lay on my back, no strangers coming in and out checking my progress...and no sounds of other women screaming in the next labour room..every time I have laboured I have been surrounded by screaming women...I like to labour quietly. I'm only seeing a G.P...one referred to me by my usual GP who doesn't do prenatal or delliveries any longer. I haven't bonded at all with this new Dr. and sometimes feel he isn't really on the ball. He doesn't remember me when I come in and has to reread my chart every time. Is this the person I want delivering our baby? (P.S. I live in a small town in Canada where you only see a specialist if there is a problem)
We have one midwife in our small town and I have been thinking of calling her to see if she could even fit me in this late in my pgcy. Also we have several doula's so I'm thinking of looking into hiring one as well....more to help with our children if I were labouring at home. We live about 10 minutes from the hospital and my next door neighbour is also one of the few OB-GYN's in our area...although I know he would want me at the hospital if there is a problem it still is comforting to know he is close by.
I'm just curious if anyone else would consider using a midwife or doula or used one in the past. I know this is such a personal decision and one I wouldn't have made with our first baby but I almost feel like I could deliver on my own without anyone hovering overhead. I'd love to use our bath tub (something not available at our hospital) Of course my only concern is the wealth fare of the baby...so does this or should it preempt any of my desires for a natural, relaxed delivery? Oh and I would just love to have our children meet baby when he is new...they can only come in during certain hours in the hospital and it was so hard for my DH coming and going...we could just stay at home together and bond. Sounds idealic doesn't it...but is it too risky?
I'd be interested to hear what you think or any experiences you can share? Any regrets about how you delivered for those who have had their babies already? I know this may sound radical to many of you. Most women have specialist and like to have epidurals etc nowadays....I never would have considered it before but since I have had no problems before I would like to assume that this would be the same sort of delivery and I would love to have a different experience. Also, if I were connected to my Dr. I think I would feel differently. You know delivering is such a magical experience and it would be nice to surround oneself with people you really trust and know well. From what I have heard midwives spend more than 10 minutes every month with their patients...would I have enough time to bond with a new caregiver? Well thanks again for any input and any experience you can share. I'm still pinching myself that I'm actually this far and can start thinking of having a baby.
Thanks, blessings from Hope